During my Primary School days, I learned a Song. The lyrics goes like this:
“SOME SAY THAT LOVE IS A PLEASURE BUT I FIND NO PLEASURE IN LOVE; FOR THE BOY/GIRL WHOM I LOVED SO DEARLY, HAS BECOME MY ENEMY TODAY…”
Well, there’s nothing wrong with seeking pleasure in Love. And as to whether there’s indeed pleasure in Love or not, the answer is easy: There isn’t just pleasure but SO MUCH PLEASURE IN LOVE. The truth, however, is that like diamonds, the pleasures of Love and Marriage are hidden; they aren’t on the surface. You’ve got to dig for them. And you do the digging, not with metal equipment but with GODLY CHARACTER.
Our anchor scripture presents some of the godly character or conduct with which to successfully dig up the pleasures of Love and Marriage.
(1) 💕 BE OF ONE MIND.
To enjoy the pleasures of Love and Marriage, you and your spouse need to be of one mind; you need to be united. The scriptures make it clear that AGREEMENT OR UNITY is the fundamental power for walking and working together(Amos 3:3)
When God saw AGREEMENT AND UNITY among the builders of the Tower of Babel, He easily knew that nothing would be impossible for them to accomplish since they were in agreement.
If you’re haughty, self-centered and individualistic in Marriage, you’ll doubtless find it hard to harvest the pleasures of Love. That probably was the problem of the writer of the song above.
(2)💕BE COMPASSIONATE TO EACH OTHER
To be compassionate is to be sympathetic, empathetic, understanding, caring and concerned. All these godly traits are characteristics of Love that you need to exhibit in your relationship with your spouse. For instance, when Jesus was on the cross and going through the most excruciating agony, He prayed for His enemies, asking the Father to forgive them because “They know not what they do.” He didn’t just make up an excuse for them. No! He knew that they ignorantly allowed themselves to be used by the devil. That was a demonstration of Understanding. Similarly, our spouses many times blunder because of ignorance or lack of wisdom or anger. We must lovingly show them compassion and help them out.
(3) 💕 LOVE AS BRETHREN
This is our third “equipment” for digging up the pleasures of Love.
It means to love each other as Brother and Sister in Christ.
Treat them with respect just as you treat the Pastors, Deacons, Elders and the brethren in Church. Always remember that your spouse is a member of the Body of Christ and whatever you do to them is personally felt by Christ(Matthew 25:40).
(4)💕BE PITIFUL
This means: be soft and tenderhearted; be easily touched by the afflictions, misery, anxieties and troubles of your Spouse and do everything in your power to help them out.
(5) BE COURTEOUS.
To be courteous is to be Polite, Respectful and Considerate in manner and conduct. This is so important in marriage. Learn to be a gentle and soothing companion to your marriage partner.
Own up when you’re wrong and apologize.
Learn to speak politely and respectfully everytime you talk to each other. Never command or order your spouse around but instead say, “My Dear, could you give me the toothpaste?”; “My dear, I forgot my Bra on the pillow, please help me bring it to the bathroom. I’m already in the bathtub and wet.”
When you’re wrong be quick to admit your fault and to say, “My Darling, I am very sorry. Kindly pardon me”.
Be a thankful and appreciative person. Sincerely express your gratitude to your Mate for each thing they do for you and the children.
❤️TODAY’S ONE FLESH ACTION
Tonight, lie down on the bed and read the first two chapters of the Songs of Solomon together. Share what you have learned with each other.
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