In 1973 MY DAD WAS TRANSFERRED to a small Yoruba speaking community and so we moved.
One day, a man came with a large basket filled to the brim with what he considered as very precious and nutritious content. And indeed it was.
By the time he got to my Dad’s Office, he was helped to bring down the heavy basket that was covered with freshly cut plantain leaves. With glee he told my Dad that he’d brought him a present. Smiling from ear to ear, he removed the leafy coverings of the basket. It was full of large, matured and choice Snails. My Dad smiled and thanked the kind gentleman. He then went on to tell him that as an Igala man, he doesn’t eat Snails! You can imagine the disappointment on the face of the generous Farmer!
By the time Dad returned home at the end of the day’s work and told us the story, we all laughed at the man who had brought us Snails to eat! Snails? God forbid that we would ever eat Snails! Who eats Snails if not “Am’Iyaji Aj’Igbi”?
Superstition, Culture, Tradition and Myths conspired to keep us from receiving and enjoying a basket load of quality meat that would have lasted us weeks if not longer! To make matters worse, we didn’t even realize the brazen robbery the devil had carried out against us in keeping us from feasting on such a large supply of proteinous dainties, all because we’d happily embraced a lie called culture.
By the time I became Born Again and chose to eat Snail meat in 1981, I had not swallowed my first bite before I concluded that Superstition is EVIL! My mind raced back to how my Dad rejected a huge basket of luscious snails because of a traditional belief.
Today, many Married Couples are being held back from fully enjoying something far sweeter and richer than snail meat. They’re kept from fully enjoying Sex in their Marriages because of cultural beliefs, traditions and taboos. And how so sad!
In very many cultures it is a strongly held belief that sexual intimacy in marriage should not take place in the daytime but only at night and even then, all the lights must be out. As we can see in our anchor scripture for today, that practice isn’t new. It was under the cloak of that practice that Leah was forced on Jacob after labouring for seven years to marry Rachel!
Today, this tradition is still in force in many places.
Now, can spouses carry on sexual intimacy under the cloak of thick darkness? Yes, of course. However, it won’t be at it’s best, because it wasn’t designed to be performed in darkness. That’s the truth: take it or leave it.
There’s barely any legitimate or proper human activity that’s performed at it’s best in darkness. None!
Tailors and Seamstresses never sew in darkness. Doctors don’t perform surgeries in darkness. Wives don’t cook, sweep the home nor do laundry in darkness. Pregnant women don’t give birth to babies in pitch-dark labour rooms. We don’t eat our meals in darkness.
Neither do we bathe in darkness nor dress up in darkness. In short, nothing worth doing is done in darkness. Then how much more sexual intimacy which is the very nucleus of marriage!
God designed husbands and wives to make love under light!! To make the most of your intimate encounters as a couple, it’s expedient that all your senses be involved, especially YOUR EYES. If there’s a time that you need to see each other’s beauty and handsomeness, it’s when you’re making love and not when you’re dressed up for church or office. The real you is YOU WITHOUT CLOTHES ON.
Nevertheless, there are homes where daytime or “Lights On” Intimacy is completely impossible for now because the entire family lives in a self-contained apartment.
When a couple is in such housing, there’s no need to try out this teaching. Wait until God moves you into a house that gives you all the necessary space and liberty you need. Life is in phases and men are in sizes. Wisdom is profitable to direct!
💕❤️ *TODAY’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT*
Tonight, sit down together and discuss your mutual Sex Life. Most couples prefer to be quiet about this area but there comes a time to look this matter in the face and discuss it. This is the time, this is the night. What superstitions taboos and traditions have been hindering your mutual freedom in this area of your marriage? It’s time to confront them radically and root them all out!
❤️💕🌴 *MARRIAGE REVOLUTION HAS COME TO STAY!* 💕💞❤️💕💞🤎💕💞💚💕💞🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌴🌳🌳🌳🌳🌳