OUR ANCHOR SCRIPTURE PASSAGE begins with a command to RENDER TO EVERY MAN THEIR DUES. It goes on to mention the specific things that you are to RENDER. They include TRIBUTE, CUSTOM, FEAR and HONOUR. Of these four things, we shall be looking at HONOUR because it is one of the things spouses owe each other and ought to render to one another.
Yes, it’s true that in marriage, the husband is the Head and the wife should submit to him. However, there is the need for spouses, especially husbands, to understand that marriage is not a “master-servant” relationship. It never was, never is and never will be. Marriage is a relationship of covenant love in which two adults have come together and been joined by God to become ONE FLESH. In this union, none is superior and none is inferior. They are one and each spouse needs to recognize the position of the other and accord him honour.
There’s never room for a husband to dishonour the wife or for the wife to dishonour the husband.
Why should you respect and honour each other? There are a thousand and one reasons.
1. You need to respect and honour your spouse because God commands you to do so. In 1 Peter 2:17a, He says “HONOUR ALL MEN” and that includes your spouse.
2. Respect and honour your spouse because they are adults. You may be older in age or in grace(spiritual age), yet there’s the need for you to respect them because they’re adults. Your husband is a Father and a leader in your community; doesn’t matter if he’s not rich. Your wife is a Mother and a leader by her status as a married woman. Therefore, never talk down to them or shout at them for any reason. You won’t be right doing so.
3. Respect and honour your spouse for choosing to marry you. Don’t think it’s luck or because you are rich and educated. The point is that your Spouse saw many others, some of them by far better than you but bypassed them and selected YOU! You ought to recognize that and honour them endlessly for it.
4. Marriage is an honourable estate and it’s only natural that you conduct yourself with decorum and that implies honouring your mate round the clock and vice versa.
HOW TO HONOUR EACH OTHER
1. MIND YOUR MANNER OF APPROACH. Yes, you have many rights in marriage. Infact, hundreds of them. However, you need to also know that your manner of approach could hinder or make your mate delay to give you your rights. Approach your mate with politeness and civility and then ask for your rights with courtesy. For instance, it’s your right to get sexual intimacy from your wife. However, an insolent and disrespectful approach could ruin the entire evening and the next day. Learn to present your request in the kindest way and with courtesy.
2. MIND YOUR LANGUAGE. Always remember that marriage is a love world where you deal directly with the heart and emotions of your mate. The reckless joke your friends may laugh at in the office might cost you two weeks of sorrow and regrets in the home. Mind your remarks about the body of your mate. And by the way, the body of your mate is the best? Oh, you didn’t know? Well, if you didn’t, then know it now: your spouse’s body is the very best.
3. TREAT YOUR MAKE LIKE A VIP. This is very important. How do you treat your Pastor when he visits you? You are elated, courteous and hospitable, right? You’re also nice, gentle and friendly. See your spouse with the same eyes and treat them in the same way.
Respect each other. Honour one another. Not just some times, but always. And you’ll see your marriage filled with peace and tranquility. This is because a lot of times, marital discord stem from carelessness in the area of honour and respect.
💕❤️ TODAY’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
Remember BITTL, your assignment last night?
You’re going to BITTL tonight also.
BITTL means BOUNCING IN THE LIGHT OF LOVE.
If you don’t know how to do it, read yesterday’s edition of this devotional.
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