SOON AFTER LOVEBIRDS’ DAILY DEVOTIONAL PIECE TITLED “THE ENJOYABLE HUSBAND (PT 1)” came out on Thursday 13, June 2024 a Reader sent in this comment:
“Thank you so much Sir. In my village, in those days, I remember how they used to catch one woman for her husband. We kept wondering as small boys why the woman would be running away from her own husband and crying openly? Obviously, she was not enjoying her husband.”
After reading that Comment, I remembered another incident elsewhere in which the woman was caught and tied down on the bed by “helpers” so her husband would mount her for intimacy! I remembered yet another case, where the wife would be crying during intimacy because she detested it.
When we look at our anchor scripture for today, we will see what should obtain in all marriage bedrooms: a wife should look forward to sexual intimacy with her husband with joyful anticipation and not fear, dread or apathy.
Without meaning to be harsh, I would say that it’s a disgrace to a husband when his wife hates, detest or dreads sexual intimacy with him. It’s a strong indication that he is himself enmeshed in ignorance and badly needs help.
Of course, it’s true that some wives come into marriage with a dislike for sex due to some ugly sexual experience from the past. But even this can be healed through the loving, patient and kind sexual conduct of a knowledgeable husband.
If the statistics of women who hate sex with their husbands should be released, many husbands will be shocked. The fact remains that most housewives don’t like sexual intimacy as they should for one simple reason: they are not enjoying it. And they’re not enjoying it because the husband is missing it in some ways. Or he isn’t meticulous enough.
Sir, you can change a few things and you’ll become the “super enjoyable” husband that your wife craves. Here are some ideas that will help you.
(1) To be an enjoyable husband in the bedroom, have the mindset of a Service Provider. Let’s consider one Service Provider as our example: THE BARBER. The Barber makes you comfortable on a chair and puts the Apron on you so the hairs don’t fall on your dress but instead on the Apron. The Barber politely asks you what hairstyle you want and you make your choice. He barbs to satisfy YOU and not himself. This is also the role of a husband in the bedroom. You’re in bed to meet the taste and choices of your wife. Truth is: which ever style she chooses will invariably bring you satisfaction.
(2) Always come into bed squeaky clean. If you’ve not had your bathe for the day, kindly do so. Bad body odour, bad breath and dirtiness easily puts wives off sexually. So, always come into bed looking sweet and clean.
(3) If you’re not keeping a beard, then be clean shaven. Wearing pricky stubble can be hurting to your wife. Mind your finger nails: let them be well filed.
(4) During Intimacy, you must COMPLETELY avoid putting your weight on your wife! She’s not a mattress or a table. Neither should you be a vampire pressing her down in the name of intimacy.
SUPPORT YOURSELF ON YOUR ELBOWS AND KNEES.
(5) Your wife is different from you. You’re Male while she’s Female. You’re by nature inclined to be in a hurry to get into her but she’s not designed to accept such. She’s created to first be romanced at length for her body TO BE READY TO RECEIVE YOURS without her feeling any pains. Incidents of wives being pursued and caught for their husbands give their husbands away as men who are badly ignorant of this common basics of loving a wife in bed.
(6) When in bed with your wife, listen to her objections. Stop whatever she says that she doesn’t enjoy and do what she cherishes, so long as those things are not ungodly or unhygienic.
(7) Prepare for Intimacy several hours ahead. Be close, nice, friendly and loving to her in the course of the day and her systems will be preparing for the great time ahead. This is wisdom. It’s like a Drama group preparing the stage hours before the Play will start.
(8) Totally dedicate each lovemaking to seeking your wife’s satisfaction. Place her sexual needs, desires and expectations above yours. And hear these secrets: in her satisfaction lies your own satisfaction and as she consistently enjoys you, so will her desire for Intimacy increase. She’ll become as desirous of you as the lady in our anchor scripture.
💕❤️ TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
Tonight, sit down together and discuss our anchor scripture. Purpose to see to it that sexual intimacy in your marriage becomes something the two of you will always exuberantly look forward to!
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