LOVEBIRDS' DEVOTIONAL

Enriching Matrimonies

BRIDGING THE DESIRE GAP BETWEEN SPOUSES IN MARRIAGE

Scripture:
‘Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.’
(1 CORINTHIANS 7: 3)

IT’S COMMON KNOWLEDGE THAT IN LOVE AND MARRIAGE, opposites attract. This means that persons of opposite personalities or physique are drawn to each other.

At the beginning of their relationship, the differences are not really visible as they’re so much engrossed in love and admiration of each other and selfishness is at its lowest. Each of them is eager to outdo the other to prove their love.

It’s after the “I DOs” have been gleefully said that their inherent differences begin to sneak out from their hide outs!

In some Marriages, it’s just within the first few days that the sexual gap between the spouses rears it’s head. One person is the romantic, lovey-dovey and erotic type: they’re almost always hungry for more intimacy; while the other is the self-appointed “Controller General” of the Marriage Bedroom. “No! No! No!”, the Controller says. “We had this ‘meal’ just three days ago and now you want it again? No. You have to wait. It should be once a week. Not once everyday as you want! There’s a season for everything!” This “Controller General” Partner, sees Sex as trivia, a minor “thing” that deserves the least of their attention. When things are this way, God’s Marriage Manual needs to be consulted. This Manual is in the Bible.

In 1 Corinthians 7: 3 and 5, the Manual commands Spouses to minister sexual intimacy to each other and never decline a partner’s request, except if a mutually agreed Fast in ongoing.

In view of 1 Corinthians 7: 3 and 5 above, no Spouse should appoint themselves to the role of Controller General in the Marriage Bedroom.

Over two decades ago I counselled a beautiful housewife who told me that the first and best thing she loves in Marriage is Sex. To me it was like saying, the best thing she likes is Honey. I wasn’t in anyway surprised. It’s only natural to love honey because it’s sweet. When a Wife has this aptitude, the response of her husband should be to buckle up and meet her demands and not to suppress it.

In that same space of time, I counseled a Couple who were experiencing some friction in their marriage. Right in her husband’s presence, the wife said that her sexual urge is ten times her husband’s. Now, before you call such woman Jezebel (and she’s not), let me tell you that God created each one of us distinctly different and for His glory!

Besides, we were each born and raised differently; and these factors shaped us into who we are. Consequently, we see or view things differently, including Sex. It’s not a sin to have an extra-large sexual appetite. It’s completely normal and natural.

So then, what’s the solution to difference in sexual desire among Spouses? It’s COMMITMENT. Be committed to your responsibilities as demanded by our anchor scripture:
RENDER or GIVE sexual ministry to each other faithfully.

The partner with the lower sex drive should walk in love and make themselves willingly available to meet their Partner’s need.
Minister to your Mate merrily and cheerily. And as you give yourself to obedience in this area, you’ll find that your Libido grows bigger and stronger. This is because the more you have sexual intimacy with your husband/wife, the more your sexual drive grows. And over time, it will be as strong as your Spouse’s or even stronger!

More importantly, by such faithfulness you’re saving both yourself and your partner from venereal diseases and the disgraceful and tragic death they bring.

πŸ·πŸ— Take Home Point: FAITHFULLY MINISTER SEXUAL INTIMACY TO YOUR MATE. SAVES YOUR LIVES FROM DISEASES AND TRAGIC DEATH.

πŸ’•β€οΈ TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM.
Reread today’s devotional piece and discuss it.

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