AMAZING AND SWEET AS IT IS TO LIVE THE LOVEY-DOVEY LIFE in Marriage, yet you can’t love without suffering. True love attracts suffering and a lot of times the suffering comes through the same person you’ve sacrificed time, energy and perhaps much material resources to serve.
As a married person, there’s a need for you to know that suffering is part of your lot as a married lover.
Our anchor scripture shows us the characteristics of true love. They include: LONG-SUFFERING, FORBEARANCE, ENDURANCE, PATIENCE. These are all part of Love. So be prepared to face these if you want to have a strong and long lasting Matrimony.
Sometimes your good intentions may be misinterpreted by your Spouse. Another time your act of love may be misunderstood and instead of praise you’re harshly accused as in the following true life story.
A man and his beloved Wife were walking through a garden. Just as they were going and conversing a ferocious dog ran towards them. Seeing and hearing it’s angry barking as it approached, the husband lifted his wife off the ground so the dog would bite him instead of her. But by the time it got close by them it stopped, barked a bit more, turned and ran back. The husband then dropped his wife and expected her to appreciate his brave and chivalrous move of bearing her up. But instead of gratitude the Wife looked at him and said: “I have heard of people picking up stones and sticks to scare off attacking dogs but for the first time I see a man picking up his wife to throw to a rabid dog to bite!” The woman completely misunderstood her husband’s loving and brave act of love for hatred and wickedness and went on to utter her twisted conclusion.
Have you experienced such meanness from your Spouse before? Instead of appreciation, gratitude, and praise you’re accused of what you never thought of. Well, these things happen in Marriages. They could inflict severe pains that ,in some cases, take quiet long to heal; even when the wounded Spouse has accepted apologies and forgiven.
One of the lessons for us this morning is to be careful in how interpret the actions and utterances of our mate. We must be delicate and sober and never come to hasty conclusions on what our partner has said or done.
For instance if you saw your husband or wife hug someone you don’t know, don’t let jealousy or blind rage drive you to some strange and immature conclusion. Ask your spouse questions and listen with an open heart to their explanation. Some have divorced their Mate in anger and haste only to realize much later that what they thought was true was completely false.
In conclusion, don’t be surprised whenever your act of love is misunderstood and you’re insulted instead of being appreciated. At such a time, exercise the appropriate virtue of love that’s necessary. It could be patience, forbearance, long-suffering or endurance. Remember that Christ suffered at the hands of the same people He came to save. They disowned Him before Pontius Pilate and asked that He be crucified.
You cannot love without suffering.
HAPPY NEW MONTH!
🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: DON’T LET YOUR MATE’S WRONG RESPONSE TO YOUR LOVE DISCOURAGE YOU. CONTINUE TO LOVE THEM DESPITE LACK OF APPRECIATION.
💕❤️ TODAY’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
Spend at least 20 minutes to converse heart-to-heart before going to bed. Don’t talk about problems please. Just have a jolly time together, reminiscing on the happy times you’ve shared in your marital journey so far.
🍎🍏MARRIAGE REVOLUTION CONTINUES!🍏🍎
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