WELL OVER A DECADE AGO, I WAS WOKEN UP from sleep by an unexpected call from a gentle man at about 4:00 AM.
At such a time, you would expect a caller to greet you with a pleasant voice and then go on to talk about why he’s calling. It wasn’t that way. My caller was irate and could only blurt out his words with obvious anger. His complaint would sound funny to some who don’t understand Marriage; especially going by his language because he spoke in down-to-earth pidgin English.
His grievance was that he had travelled all the way from his station to his wife and looked forward to sexual intimacy that night but at bedtime, Madam started prayers and was still praying as at the time he was calling me at 4:00 AM!
Dear Spouses, it’s very true that God has commanded us to pray without ceasing. And it’s a popular and old saying that “a prayerless Christian is a powerless Christian”. It is also true that, it is better to please God than man. Nevertheless, we must beware of walking in ignorant zeal and immaturity that turns us to transgressors even in the course of trying to do good.
God has indeed called us to practice RIGHTEOUSNESS, but certainly not “OVER-RIGHTEOUSNESD”! He has commanded us to pray without ceasing but we need to also understand that, that command also takes full cognisance of other duties and responsibilities that we ought to attend to. We must not be guilty of negligence in any of our responsibilities.
Yes, it’s good to spend quality time with God but we must also remember the Scripture that says:
“If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?
And this commandment have we from him, That HE WHO LOVETH GOD LOVE HIS BROTHER ALSO.”(1 John 4:20-21)
If a wife truly loves God, it should naturally follow that she would ardently love her husband too. And vice versa.
Over a month ago, I read about a highly respected and senior pentecostal clergyman who almost committed immorality with a girl that’s a member of his congregation. He was already in the process of undressing the lady when he heard the sound of the school bus of his children as it pulled up beside his home. He had to quickly discontinue the devil’s work, rush out of the devil’s work shop and go to meet his children! The young lady brought Sin to him right in his matrimonial home and he almost committed the act. Your question may be, “Doesn’t such a senior man of God have a wife?” Well, he had a wife but she would have nothing to do with sleeping with him in that season as she was zealously busy with over 100 Days Fast! After she finished the Fast of her husband’s Church, she quickly joined the Fasting Programme of “Mount Sinai Church”. After completing the Fast of “Mount Sinai Church”, she immediately joined that of “Mount Horeb Foundation Church”. After that, she promptly joined that of “Third Heaven Revelation Ministries”. Like Chain Smokers she was “Chain Fasting” with no thoughts for her husband’s bedroom needs. It was during this time that her husband nearly fell into Sin. Only God saved him!
Prayer, work in Church, and indeed, all the other spiritual responsibilities you’ve accepted are important; they’re good. Your business or civil service career are all very important also. But so also is your Spouse and your Marriage! You may not know this but DELIBERATE NEGLIGENCE of your Mate’s sexual needs is Sin; because the Bible explicitly commands you to attend to their sexual needs except when the two of you have MUTUALLY AGREED to refrain from it for the purpose of fasting and prayer.
I once ran into a woman on the street and as we conversed, she unashamedly told me how her husband hadn’t touched her for four long years! She spoke with a loud voice, not minding that people were hearing her.
Spouses, wickedness is wickedness; it doesn’t matter whether you do it in the name of “serving God”. You know that your Spouse hasn’t any where else to go for sexual sustainance, yet you use christian duties as excuses to deny them of sexual intimacy. It isn’t right and definitely, you don’t have God’s approval.
If God slew Onan for sexual deception, sexual cunning and sexual fraud (Gen.38:8-10), it remains true that He hasn’t changed (1 Sam.2:6), and could visit any one who practices sexual fraud (1 Cor.7:5) in our day with the same judgement!
🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: LET’S BEWARE OF ZEAL WITHOUT KNOWLEDGE. LET’S NOT USE OUR SPIRITUAL OR SECULAR COMMITMENT AS EXCUSES OR COVER-UPS FOR NEGLIGENCE IN OUR MATRIMONIAL DUTIES.
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