PEACE AND TRANQUILITY ARE MISSING IN MOST MARRIAGES because Spouses go into roles that aren’t theirs in the relationship.

In marriage, your Spouse will make mistakes. Sometimes, very costly mistakes. You must, however, understand that you are not in their life to play GOD and commence judgement on them. This is one of the mistakes Spouses make. Yes, your Mate’s mistake has saddened you and pulled the family many months backwards economically. You’re badly devasted. Nevertheless, you need to remember that you are present in their life to help them get back on their feet and not to worsen the already bad situation.

If there’s a place where the second greatest commandment needs to be obeyed, it’s between Spouses.

And what does the second greatest commandment say? Here:

“And the second is like unto it, THOU SHALT LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF.”
(Matthew 22: 39)

GOD commands us to love our Spouse exactly as we love ourselves. Sadly, we overlook this a lot of times.

How do we love ourselves? Not only by feeding our bodies with three square meals everyday. We also love ourselves by being lenient and soft on ourselves when we make mistakes. We’re considerate and reasonable and conclude that there’s no way we could have made the mistake intentionally. And because of this mindset of selflove, we OVERLOOK our faults many times.

Sometimes, we even say things like: “The car crashed. Well, I won’t kill myself over that. It’s not my life. I won’t make myself develop high blood pressure and end up in wheelchair because of a car.” We shrug our shoulders and march into the future. But is it right to behave this way? Yes, it is 100% right. It’s the healthy thing to do. But most times we don’t consider our Spouse worthy of this kind of love. When God said to love your spouse as yourself, this is one of the things he means. Overlook your Mate’s mistakes as easily and as quickly as you overlook yours. Don’t be an Executioner in that Marriage. Don’t put your Mate through hell with your critical attitude and judgemental words for whole weeks because they made a mistake.

Let’s call a spade a spade: NO BODY wants to make mistakes. No one wants to crash theirs or their spouse’s newly acquired car. No body intentionally wants to lose precious documents, important keys, phones, laptops, etc. But these things happen because we’re human, imperfect; still growing and still learning, irrespective of our age.

Therefore when your Spouse makes mistakes, put yourself in their shoes. Would you commit such an error happily and with smiles? If your answer is “No”, then know that your Partner couldn’t have committed that error intentionally. So forgive, overlook and move ahead. This is one of the keys to a peaceful and tranquil marriage.

So, to have a a marriage and home that’s an Oasis of bliss and serenity, you must love your Spouse as you love yourself; and treat them as you treat yourself.

Always consciously watch against heating up the home with unkind words and negative attitudes.

Avoid creating heartaches by harsh and unkind remarks. Be deliberately and generously GENTLE to your Spouse! It’s not every mistake that you must open your mouth and deliver “a quick lecture” to correct! Silence is indeed golden very many times. And when you keep silence for peace to reign, God steps in to make the necessary corrections and His corrections yield better and permanent results.

Always bear in mind that you’re in your Mate’s life as their SPOUSE AND LOVER. Pour your energy into these obvious areas of your calling.

Now, does it mean that you should NEVER correct your Mate when they have apparently erred? No, you’ll definitely need to correct them SOMETIMES. You will however, need to do so IN LOVE AND HUMILITY, so that the enemy will not craftily take advantage of you. We’ll see this our concluding scripture for today:

“Brethren, IF A MAN BE OVERTAKEN IN A FAULT, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one IN THE SPIRIT OF MEEKNESS; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.” (Galatians 6: 1)

Being OVERTAKEN means that it happened not intentionally but circumstantially. And this is how most mistakes take place.

However, Adultery and infidelity in all their forms are deliberate. No one removes his or her dress to commit Adultery circumstantially or because they’re “overtaken”. Such acts are deliberate!

🔥🔥🔥FAITH DECREE:
🔥LET THE GRACE TO TRULY LOVE YOUR SPOUSE AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF BE RELEASED ON YOU NOW!⚡

🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: BE AS SOFT AND GENTLE TO YOUR SPOUSE AS YOU ARE TO YOURSELF!

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