WHEN A MAN OR WOMAN gets appointed as a government Minister or to any other high office, they quickly work on their appearance and dressing.
For instance, if the man was spotting dreadlocks for years as a Rastafarian, he quickly calls a Barber to cut off his nasty “natty dreads” so he’d look decent because the Rastafarian “I and I” image isn’t good for his new status as an honourable Minister and a member of the Federal Cabinet.
Similarly, when you become married you need to ensure that your appearance and dressing are decent, respectable and befitting of your new status as a married man or woman. This is because Marriage is an estate of honour(Hebrews 13: 4a) and the society, your family, your religious community and your Spouse’s family expect you to look responsible and not reprehensible.
As our anchor scripture shows, after Adam and Eve sinned and became naked, God made for them garments of skin that fully covered their nakedness, showing us that the primary purpose of dressing is the full concealment of nakedness. This is the first thing your daily dressing must aim at achieving: concealment of your nakedness from the view of others. Looking attractive, colourful and admirable are secondary factors.
Without arguments, character is of paramount importance in marriage. Nevertheless, your outward appearance also counts.
Here are some guidelines that will help you to ensure that your dressing always matches your marital status as a husband or wife; such that your appearance never brings reproach to you, your Spouse, your children, your In-laws or to God.
(A) LET YOUR DRESSING FULLY CONCEAL YOUR NAKEDNESS.
As a married man or woman, make sure that whatever you wear COMPLETELY CONCEALS your nakedness. CONCEAL means: to hide, keep out of sight, hide from being seen.
This means that in your dressing, it’s not enough that you have a dress on your body. It’s important that the dress is not in any way transparent as to allow your nakedness to be revealed in any measure.
You must also avoid tight fitting dresses that show the shape of your thighs, buttocks and bosom. This especially applies to women and wives because the sight of their bodily shape easily stirs sexual urge in men.
Someone may be asking: “What exactly comprises our nakedness?” Your nakedness comprises of all the parts of your body that could excite, trigger, stir or provoke SEXUAL DESIRE OR AROUSAL in the opposite sex by sight.
Generally speaking, this comprises your entire body except your head, neck, arms, hands, legs, feet and face. All the other parts including your armpits could visually stimulate sexual feelings in the opposite Sex.
This is why God chose to make Garments for the first couple as their dress. Garments are usually long and reach down to the ankles. Not only that, they are large and roomy and therefore hide the bulging bodily shapes of the wearer from view.
(2) WEAR WHAT WILL GLORIFY GOD
As adults and married people, DRESSING UP is one of the things we consciously do every day. You’re no more a child, therefore people don’t dress you up. You dress yourself by yourself. Now, God’s Word says:
“Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or WHATSOEVER YE DO, DO ALL TO THE GLORY OF GOD.” (1 Corinthians 10:31)
Going by the Scripture verse above, dressing up is one of the things you do and that verse commands that you to do it to the glory of God. Put bluntly, God holds you responsible to see to it that you dress for HIS GLORY always! This is particularly if you’re a born again Believer.
So, whenever you’re done from your bathroom and stand beside your wardrobe to select what to wear, be mindful of 1 Corinthians 10: 31 quoted above and see to it that your dressing for the day would bring glory to God and not shame and blasphemy.
This means that you must not wear things such as TORN JEANS TROUSERS that show your thighs and make you look like a thug, a madman or a hooligan instead of a responsible, law-abiding married man or woman.
For women, wears such as Bumshorts, low waist trousers, “show your belly button blouses”, tight fitting leggings, etc, should not be worn by you because they expose your nakedness and consequently stir lust in the men who see you. By the time you wear any of these nasty and immoral attires for five hours, you would have defiled the hearts of very many men with lust and lasciviousness, even though you didn’t intend such. Nevertheless, God will hold you responsible for the moral and spiritual damage you would have caused.
To glorify God in your dressing, wear outfits, clothing and attires that when people see you in them, they will give praise to God silently in their hearts.
A number of times, I have seen women in typical female dresses like gowns, long skirt and blouse or native African attires like “Iro and Buba” and my spirit felt so sweet and happy because I could see the feminine glory and glow they radiated.
(3) DON’T WEAR AN ATTIRE THAT WILL MAKE MEN SEE YOU AS “AVAILABLE”
When you read Proverbs 7, you’ll see a woman who dressed in the “ATTIRE OF HARLOTS”. A study of that chapter will show you that she was a married woman. But because her husband travelled, she fished out one of her old seductive wears that she used as a Spinster to attract men. With that dress she went to town to sleep around “a bit”!
As a woman, you are blessed with a strong instinct. You know what you wear that would turn men’s head in your direction. Since God has joined to a man in marriage, avoid wearing whatever would attract the amorous attention of other men.
Since you’re married, you’ve crossed the Rubicon. Don’t hunger for the worldly dresses of Singles. Dress like a woman of honour and honour will follow you because as Late Archbishop Benson Idahosa rightly said, “AS YOU DRESS, SO WILL YOU BE ADDRESSED.”
Some housewives dress carelessly, often exposing their breasts and hairy armpits and still wonder why men are approaching them “when they already know that I am a married woman.” Madam, your careless dressing will make some men feel that you’re actually using your dressing style as a subtle and indirect approach to invite them for extramarital affairs. So, TAKE DRESSING PROPERLY SERIOUSLY as a married woman!
(4) WEAR THE DRESS OF YOUR OWN GENDER
The Bible tells us that God created man as male and female. This means that the male is different from the female. This being so, I am certain that when God made garments for the first couple, the garment of Adam was different from that of Eve.
In Deuteronomy God commands:
“The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.” (Deuteronomy 22:5)
Dressing properly in marriage also implies strictly wearing the attires of your gender. It isn’t respectable for a husband to wear women’s dresses in the name of fashion or vice versa. It’s both physically and spiritually wrong.
Note that there’s nothing like Unisex dresses in the sight of God.
So always dress in the attires of your own gender.
Dressing in the clothes of the opposite sex will most certainly affect your mind and consequently your behaviour.
In conclusion, we also need to dress such that our faith in Christ will be manifest through our appearance. Very many times, I have seen Christians, both male and female, whose dressing alone told me their spiritual status ever before I spoke to them!
Wherever you are, ensure that your dressing glorifies God as well as bring honour to your Spouse and your family.
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