ABOUT FIVE YEARS AGO, I WENT OUT ONE MORNING, at about 7 AM, to get a big tube of toothpaste for my family since the old one was almost finished. On my way back, I saw a beautiful lady whose husband was treating like trash or something he picked from the roadside. It was Saturday morning, and she was busy spreading her newly done laundry on the clothes line to dry. I greeted her and she upon recognizing my voice answered, turning from what was doing to see me. All she had on was a skirt and a wrapper, wrapped over her bosom as it’s usual for women to tie at that time of the day. As we talked, she loosened the wrapper to readjust it and in doing this she inadvertently exposed her two beautiful and luscious breasts. I turned my eyes while she did the retying. I was not embarrassed, neither was she.

By the time we separated and I headed home that morning, that sight did not disturb me in any way. After all, I was happily married to a very beautiful wife and the girl of my dreams. Besides, I was already working for and with the LORD as a Marriage Teacher and Counselor.

Nevertheless, that sight got me thinking seriously about someone and it was the woman’s husband. “How could a man have such a beautiful, educated, buxomy, born again Christian woman in his life and be driving her out of his house again and again and again?”, I thought, perplexed. This is the daughter of educated parents who had a decent home. Exactly what did this young man want? After all, he is also a professing born again Christian and a member of a vibrant Pentecostal church. My conclusion was that he must have fixed his eyes more on her faults, weaknesses and imperfections than on her beauty, virtues, character and other noble qualities that abounded in her life. Meanwhile, he forgot that his own life, like every other human being, is a mixture of diverse defects, flaws and the good gifts of God.

There’s an Igala saying that goes thus: “Ōbaka: Alijē kiya t’ ēyō”. It speaks about an ungrateful fellow, Ōbaka by name, who was compassionately given a rich meal of pounded yam with delicious soup to eat. However, instead of relishing the sumptuous meal with delight he was unhappy with the few umpounded bits of yam in the food. He forgot that he was starving and divine mercy touched someone’s heart to feed him. But instead of being grateful and eating the meal with joy, he was displeased with the imperfect pounding work of those who laboured to pound the yam into fuu-fuu!

The ungrateful behaviour of Ōbaka is what we see in many marriages today. What says the Scripture? Here:

“WHOSO FINDETH A WIFE FINDETH A GOOD THING, AND OBTAINETH FAVOUR OF THE LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22)
God’s Word says that your Spouse is A GOOD THING! Even more importantly, it goes on to tell you that you didn’t win their love and hand in marriage because you schooled abroad, because you’re rich, because you’re a highly placed government official or because you’re a celebrity. You got that Spouse because of God’s unmerited favour shown to you! Not because you served God so well, but because He voluntarily chose to be so gracious to you. And that’s why you must hold your husband or wife dear and love them without complaining.

In our anchor scriptures for today, Jesus rebukes those who gaze at the tiny speck in the eye of the people who contribute to their lives. The people who are contributing to their lives see the huge log in their eye but don’t complain. They eagerly love them despite it. Yet, they who have a log in their eye won’t let the loving Spouse rest. This is what is happening in many marriages.

Your marriage is a feast at which you’re not qualified to be a guest. It’s presented to you in love by God. What He expects you to do is to recognize your fortune and blessedness in being so honoured and enjoy your Spouse with so much gratitude.

You don’t deserve your Mate and never will. You’re not entitled to them. So, discard your entitlement mentality.

All the rights and privileges of marriage that you owe each other are God’s free blessings. Be gracious, polite and civil when asking for them and your Spouse will gladly give them to you. Never act bossy, superior and haughty when in need of any of the blessings your Spouse has been entrusted by God to give to you. Just as in the place of prayer, ask politely and your Spouse will give it to you.
If they refuse, God is right there to do what He should do.

Finally, hear this. The faults in your Mate’s life that you’re impatiently complaining about are all well known to God and they’re His assignment to remove and not yours. Just love your Spouse deeper and better every new day and pray for them. God will take care of those weaknesses you’re worried about. He owns your Spouse and He isn’t through with refining their life and making them all He destined them to be.
Walk in love and patience with your Mate and you’ll be shocked at the transformation and glorification that God will manifest in their life.

🔥🔥🔥 FAITH DECREE:
🔥 LET THE EYES OF YOUR UNDERSTANDING BE OPENED TO SEE THE GLORIOUS RUBIES IN YOUR MATE’S LIFE AND FUTURE; AND NOT THE TEMPORARY RUBBISH AROUND THEM TODAY.

🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: YOUR MARRIAGE IS A LIFELONG FEAST, ENJOY IT WITH GRATITUDE!

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