IN MARRIAGE, YOU INTERACT WITH YOUR SPOUSE on any given day by words more than by hugs, kisses, embraces and sexual intimacy combined. Therefore, the happiness, peace and tranquility in your marriage is greatly determined by the kind of words you speak to each other.

Marriage apart, God did not give us mouths to speak as we please. His Word makes it clear that He is keeping meticulous records of our utterances and that we’re going to be held accountable for all that we say:

“BUT I TELL YOU, ON THE DAY OF JUDGMENT PEOPLE WILL HAVE TO GIVE AN ACCOUNTING FOR EVERY CARELESS OR USELESS WORD THEY SPEAK.” (Matthew 12:36; AMP)

The verse above warns us, among other things, to avoid speaking careless and useless words in our relationship with our marriage partner. This means that we need to know exactly what we are saying and our words should deliberate, intentional and aimed at achieving positive results in the life of our beloved Spouse. And that’s why God instructs and commands us in Ephesians 4:

“Do not let unwholesome [foul, profane, worthless, vulgar] words ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech as is good for building up others, according to the need and the occasion, so that it will be a blessing to those who hear [you speak].” (Ephesians 4: 29)

Applied to your Marriage, Ephesians 4: 29 is in a nutshell telling you to only speak to your husband or wife, words that would build them up and not such as would crush their spirit, self-esteem, confidence, peace of mind, and create a rift between you and them, ruining your cordiality.

God wants ALL YOUR WORDS to your Spouse to be gracious, pleasant and seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6A) In other words, He’s telling you not to be a random talker. No. Be that Spouse who takes their time to plan, prepare and “cook” what they want to say, check it’s taste and be sure it’s “sumptuous and delicious” before speaking it in the hearing of their Mate. Sadly, most married people talk carelessly and thoughtlessly.

About two weeks ago, something made me google Dr Martin Luther King’s immortal speech, “I HAVE A DREAM” just to read it once again after so many years. Till this day, that great speech hasn’t lost it’s riveting power. But do you know what? That speech wasn’t written in thirty minutes. I’m certain about that. It probably took several days of writing, editing, rereading and rewriting until it finally became the celebrated and unforgettable oratorical work that it is today.

Similarly, Spouses need to premeditate what they want to say and prayerfully consider how best to present them.

In view of the fact that we shall be judged for the wrong words we speak, it’s important that we are conscious of what we say to each other. We must be mindful of of our choice of words and the impact they will make. Will they be constructive, making the life of our Spouse better or will they be injurious and destructive causing the heart of our Spouse to bleed? We must strive to speak words that would build up, strengthen, boost and inspire one another. We’ll successfully do so by using our tongues to praise, encourage, uplift the spirit of one another; appreciate, express gratitude to one another; acknowledge each other’s gifts, talents and capabilities and what blessing they have been to the family, etc.

Proverbs 10: 21A tells us that:

“THE LIPS OF THE RIGHTEOUS FEED AND GUIDE MANY” (Proverbs 10: 21A; AMP)
Make it your goal to ensure that your lips feed, nourish, nurture, tend and enrich your Spouse and not the opposite.

Let your mouth give counsel, guidance, direction, assurance and timely admonition to your mate.

In closing, we shall look at Praise and Admiration. These are some other ways you could use your mouth to build up one another.

In the Song of Solomon, we see much of the practice of admiring and eulogizing one another and it’s so beautiful.

As highly placed as GOD our Creator is, He is touched and moved by praise. Praise brings down more of His presence. If God responds to praise how much more your spouse? The person you praise and admire consistently draws closer to you leading to better bonding and a stronger relationship.

Compliment one another. Your Mate knows he or she is handsome or beautiful yet there’s something unique about them hearing it from your lips. Let them know that you know that they’re intelligent, wonderful, honest, dependable, etc.

Mirror back to them with your words the beauty and qualities of their love. If you believe that they’re exceptionally good in bed say so! It will boost their self-confidence more than you can ever imagine.

So, use your mouth to build up one another.
Always remember that when God saw the earth submerged in the Deluge and draped in thick darkness, what He did was to SPEAK CREATIVE WORDS and a glorious world emerged. So, when it’s dark in your marriage, don’t be moved by what you see. Instead, use your words to speak positively and creatively to each other and you’ll see the glory of God reappear in your union to RENEW EVERYTHING!

🔥🔥🔥 FAITH DECREE:
🔥LET THE GRACE TO COMMUNICATE GRACIOUSLY AND CREATIVELY BE RELEASED UPON EVERYONE READING THIS DEVOTIONAL PIECE, IN JESUS’ MIGHTY NAME!⚡

🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: NEVER AGAIN SPEAK FOUL, PROFANE OR VULGAR WORDS TO EACH OTHER IN YOUR MARRIAGE!
SPEAK ONLY LOVING AND CREATIVE WORDS THAT WOULD BUILD UP AND STRENGTHEN ONE ANOTHER.

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