LONG AGO WHEN I WASN’T YET MARRIED, I WENT TO TOWN ONE EVENING TO DO SOMETHING. Somehow, I decided to visit a colleague in my secular work place whose residence I’d never before been. He was a ruffian. Perhaps, he’d been a Hippie way back in the 1960s going by his “I don’t care” attitude about looking gentlemanly.
During the visit, he told me how he slept with “that Madam”. When I probed to know the identity of the woman, he began describing her but he really didn’t need to take a long time to do so because I quickly knew her. I never imagined she could do such a thing. He told me he really “handled her in bed.”
When you compare the husband of that woman to him, he was no match in any way! The husband of the woman was a real gentleman and a better paid officer than the man his wife slept with. Whereas the husband of that lady was a teetotaler who abstained from alcohol, the man his wife slept with wasn’t just a ruffian but an Indian hemp smoker. It was very many years after, that I heard from a completely different person that, that woman was a serial Adulteress. She was known for it.
Here at Maximum Marriage Ministries, we try to say things as plainly as God grants us utterance.
Bad and very ugly as it is for a married woman to be humiliating her husband by sleeping around, yet, several such women’s misconduct stem from their husband’s nonchalant attitude towards sexual intimacy in marriage.
It’s true that as Christians, we’re to be focused on going to Heaven, but for now we’re on Earth and the God-given nature of your Spouse will most definitely make and keep making physical demands that no one else is permitted to meet but you her husband.
If, for instance, your wife desires sexual intimacy everyday and you’re arm twisting or forcing her to be content with only one episode in a week, you are creating an avenue for Satan to lure her to seek satisfaction in lesbianism, pornography, masturbation or adultery which are all SINFUL. It’s not your responsibility in marriage to decide the number of times your spouse should desire sexual intimacy. That was already coded into their nature before you married them. Your responsibility is to lovingly adjust to their nature and learn how to satisfy them.
Our anchor scripture or theme verse, featured in three different translations, reveals the basic and long lasting solution to infidelity and it’s nothing else but SEXUAL SATISFACTION AT HOME and from one’s own Spouse! According to our anchor scripture, when one is fully satisfied from home, they have no appetite for the very best of food outside but when they’re starving from home, they’ll condescend to eat on the dunghill with pigs. Which is why you see some respectable housewives secretly going out with ugly boys who are not fit to shine the shoes of their husband.
So whether your wife is going out or not, it’s important that you become a Sex Adept. She needs you to be one for her.
Now, who is an ADEPT. An Adept is a person who is proficient and skillful in a particular area of performance. An Adept is a virtuoso and an expert. And since sexual intimacy is a marital service you have to render to your wife, it’s important that you’re not just available in bed but that you be expert, highly skillful and excellent at it.
In this regard therefore, we shall be looking at some basic things.
(1)GIVE YOUR WIFE THE QUALITY AND QUANTITY OF SEX THAT WOULD MAKE HER DETEST INFIDELITY.
“Nevertheless, TO AVOID FORNICATION, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”(1 Corinthians 7:2)
Going by the verse immediately above, one of the targets or purposes for sexual intimacy in marriage is to offer the quality and quantity of sexual services that would make your Spouse fully SATISFIED.
If you’re very thirsty and some gives you a teaspoon full of water, would that quench your thirst? No! But sadly, that’s exactly what many wives endure from their husbands from year to year. I have a book that tells of a housewife who was married to an archaic husband who cared less about sex. In five years of marriage, they had sex only three times and each of those times was like an injection: painful. That’s no sex but torment. The wife received neither pleasure nor the moral strength to AVOID FORNICATION! And there are husbands who are readily available but their wife find them too hasty and too brief. Just as they’re starting they’re already ending. The whole thing never lasts more than three minutes. Do you ever use three minutes to have a thorough bath? How much more sexual intimacy with your wife that’s a Covenant activity?
(2) MAKE LOVE TO YOUR WIFE WITH KNOWLEDGE
“LIKEWISE, YE HUSBANDS, DWELL WITH THEM ACCORDING TO KNOWLEDGE”(1 Peter 3: 7A)
God commands you to relate with your wife knowledgeably and not ignorantly or according to your feelings!
When you have undressed for intimacy, Ignorance and your feelings tell you to hurry her up to quickly undress and “let’s begin”. You’re in such a hurry but that’s not according to knowledge.
Knowledge will teach you that the sexual nature of your wife is different from yours. While you’re so quickly ready is because, by nature you’re visually driven, but she takes a while to be ready and you need to help her begin her arousal process by lovingly and gently giving her the right words and the right touches that will move both of you together off the ground and into the skies and fly to outer Space.
(3) MAKE LONG LASTING LOVE
“LET THE HUSBAND RENDER TO HIS WIFE THE AFFECTION DUE HER”(1 Corinthians 7:3A; NKJV)
In the verse immediately above, husbands are commanded to give their wives the measure and quality of sexual affection that’s their rights in marriage. Put another way, a husband is give his wife, not half measure but full and overflowing measure of sex that would satisfy her. This requires you listening to her. Hear her out. If she says that you’re too brief, don’t be offended. Just consider it as candidness on her part and adjust. Get hold of good books on Sexual Intimacy that are authored by godly men and women and read them. You’ll see changes in your bedroom practice as you use the knowledge you get from those books.
Another avenue for gaining more knowledge on how to satisfy your wife sexually is to attend Marriage Seminars. If you need one in your local church, fellowship, chapel or ministry, kindly let us know by writing to us, using our email address that’s somewhere below. We’d be very glad to serve your organization.
🔥🔥🔥 FAITH DECREE:
🔥LET EVERY HUSBAND READING THIS DEVOTIONAL PIECE RECEIVE GRACE TO OBEY THE TEACHINGS HEREIN PRESENTED, IN JESUS’ MIGHTY NAME!
🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: YOUR WIFE NEEDS YOU TO BE HER SEX ADEPT. DILIGENTLY FOLLOW ALL THE INSTRUCTIONS IN THIS DEVOTIONAL PIECE AND YOU’LL BECOME ONE !
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