DURING COURTSHIP, MOST SUITORS AND SWEETHEARTS treat each other delicately and with uttermost respect. They highly esteem one another and even go the extra mile to please each other without needing to be urged. They happily look forward to their marriage becoming a sweet colony of Heaven on earth.
But after saying “I DO” on the Big Day, they unconsciously begin to lower their respect for each other. And after a while, other things begin to replace their Spouse in their hearts and affection until onlookers begin to wonder how on earth the pair came to marry each other; considering their frequent contentions.
What happened? What went wrong? The answer is simple: THEY FORGOT!
The unfortunate act of Forgetting has caused countless disasters. A nursing mother remembers that she does not have Magi Cubes and dashes out to quickly buy some from the nearby petty trader. She forgot that her crawling baby was near the kitchen door. At the Stall, she met an old friend and an interesting conversation ensued. Meanwhile, Baby has crawled to the stove and pulls down the cooking pot containing hot boiling oil. The stove explodes, the kitchen is in flames and neighbours rush in to the rescue. But where’s the mother? Someone dashes into the street to find her. By the time she returns, her beautiful baby is charred and dying; and they rush it to the Hospital. “Madam, what happened?” In tears she answers, “I forgot that the child was awake and near the kitchen….!”
A housewife takes her phone to the “Phone Village” for a minor repair. Like a swarm of bees, young phone technicians besieged her, every one clamouring for her patronage. She doesn’t even know who’s who because she’s there for the first time. She finally chooses one of them and hands her phone to him and tells him it’s problem. The young man tells her to go and return in an hour’s time. She walks back to her car and drives off to work. All the while she forgot that she had in that phone videos of herself and her husband’s intimate times together which she recorded. And she didn’t even remember them until two days after getting the phone when her husband returned from work ashen faced and asked how their private videos got on the internet! She tells him and they rush to the “Phone Village” where the technician isn’t any where in sight. SHE FORGOT and a big scandal broke that swiftly drove them from that town in shame! from that town in shame. (Please, note that it’s UNWISE for married couples to film their intimate times!)
Spouses mistreat, mishandle, manhandle, disregard and dishonour each other because they’ve forgotten what brought them together and how important they are in each other’s life. They also forget the very important fact that they don’t have each other forever.
What brought you together?
Love brought you together. You didn’t agree to marry your Mate because you saw perfection in them, did you? Neither was it because you even anticipated perfection. You just loved them as they were! So, why should their faults, mistakes and inadequacies irk and anger you so badly now? Those faults were there while you were in courtship and you successfully loved them in spite of them. Why should you love them less just because you’re now privileged to live with them, see each other better closely and know the things you didn’t know about them before? In marriage, the weaknesses you discover after marriage become your responsibility to seek solution to. That way you become a destiny helper and a saviour to your Spouse.
Whether you know it or not; whether you like it or not, your Marriage has a time limit. And that’s why you must make the most of it while it lasts, because you can’t tell when the wind of death will blow off the candle of your Spouse.
Stop spending the short time you have on studying, dissecting and criticizing the weaknesses and faults of each other. One of the functions of Love is TO COVER A MULTITUDE OF SINS!(1 Peter 4:8). That’s one of your mission in your Mate’s life. You’ll do well to focus much on that. If you truly love your Mate, endure and bear with their errors, trusting that they’ll overcome them by God’s grace.
Every new morning remember that you’ll not always have each other. Therefore, make it your focus to be a blessing to your Partner in every way possible so that in the event of sudden death, your mate will remember you with fondness and not heave a sigh of relief!
If Spinterhood was tough for you, how do you think Widowhood will be? Husband, if living as a Bachelor was hard and harsh, do you think you can face life as a Widower? Especially, with the horrifying level of moral decadence and sexually transmitted diseases on the loose?
Treasure your Spouse. Treat them with uttermost love, respect and gentleness. That way, you’ll both live longer for each other and for your precious children.
I once visited a home, which as it turned out, was actually a Den of a Lioness. When I arrived the home of this man of honour, hardly had I sat down before his Lioness came out roaring at the top of her voice: “You evil man, you evil man….” She was shouting at her husband. Anger and aggression was written all over her. Not even the presence of two visitors could deter her. Yet her husband was a Christian leader and a truly born again gentleman. She didn’t see any reason why she should greet me and the gentleman who brought me to their home, as I’d never been there before! My stay was very brief indeed and I took my leave.
What I saw that day was a dress rehearsal compared to what she later put him through, as I later learnt from a very reliable person. As I write, that long-suffering man has since left to be with his Maker. She frustrated him to death. And I am wondering how the Lioness is enjoying her wonderful season of widowhood in the Den.
Mind how you treat your Spouse. Don’t use your hands to break the Lover and Soulmate that God graciously gave you to enjoy just because you see a few imperfections in them. Always remember that you are also imperfect! Therefore, treat one another with loads of maturity and compassion.
Never, never forget that having your Spouse is a once in a lifetime privilege. Make the best use of this privilege. Serve them, love them, thrill them and make them happy and you’ll find that they’ll endeavour to do same for you too!
🔥🔥🔥 FAITH DECREE:
🔥LET THE DIVINE ENABLEMENT TO LOVE YOUR MATE ZEALOUSLY AND TIRELESSLY BE FREELY BESTOWED ON EVERY SPOUSE READING THIS DEVOTIONAL PIECE!!!
LET YOUR EARS BECOME DEAF TO THE DEVIL’S VOICE THAT KEEP ACCUSING YOUR SPOUSE TO YOU, IN JESUS’ MIGHTY NAME!!!⚡
🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: YOUR MARRIAGE HAS A TIME LIMIT. LOVE AND SERVE EACH OTHER TODAY AS IF TODAY IS YOUR LAST DAY TOGETHER.
💕❤️ TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
In view of today’s devotional message, don’t you think it’s necessary that you be gentle and tenderhearted to each other tonight and always?
Just before sleeping off, express your appreciation, love and loyalty to each other.
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