HE SHOOK HIS BUSHY HEAD furiously, foaming at the mouth and breathing heavily as if he had just finished contending with a mammoth monster that almost took his life. “Sir, I must be honest with you” he said, his eyes blinking rapidly. “I’m plain tired of this Lady, to say the least. She’s the most reckless soul I’ve ever met.” His body language spoke more than his words. And as he spoke, his delectable and young wife, impeccably clean and smooth skinned, wept profusely as she sat at his side, speechless.
“For how long have you been married?” I asked the bulky gentleman who looked so much like a heavyweight wrestling championship contender.
“Well, we’ve been married for four years. Yes, four years and two months to be precise. But as it is, I’m worn and weary. Very sincerely, I don’t mind leaving this marriage!” His deep bass voice made his words even more ominous.
“Madam, please, calm down. God will definitely help us. Stop crying.” I gently said to his wife. And as she wiped her tears, I added. “Please, what do you have to say about all he’s said about you?”
“Sir, he has made me appear like a mad woman who destroys the things he has taken years to acquire. But Sir, there’s never been a time I’ve deliberately destroyed any of his things. What have I destroyed? Just two of his favorite mugs that fell while I was doing dishes. Sir, you’ll be surprised to hear that for three whole days, he wouldn’t eat my food just because of those two mugs. And he’s the Assistant Pastor in our Church. Sir, the aspect that pains me the most is his words. He would fill the entire house with harsh and hard words for days; just because I spoiled a little thing. He speaks at the top of his voice not minding who’s hearing. Our next door neighbour has told him over and over that the way he incessantly rants over trivia is unbecoming
but he wouldn’t listen. Instead, he has made that man his enemy.” I smiled as I marvelled quietly at the intelligence of this pretty lady. She spoke flawless English.
“Mr. Denson, is it true that she’s only broken two mugs?” I asked the restless gentleman. “Yes Sir. But Sir, you’ll agree with me that I don’t need to wait until she destroys everything in the house before I cry out!” He answered.
“Well, let me ask you a question Mr Denson. How many were those mugs when you bought them?” “Six Sir, but I broke three mistakenly while I was a Bachelor.” “Did you go on a hunger strike for three days for breaking those mugs? And did you also get very upset with yourself that you kept shouting at the top of your voice and blaming yourself in your house for three days to the hearing of all your neighbours?” “No, No, No! Haba, how would I do such? Am I crazy?” he answered.
“Mr Denson, your Wife is your Body. That’s what the Bible says. Just as you were lenient to your hand, your arm and indeed to your entire body on each of the occasions when you broke each of those three precious mugs, so should you be to your Wife when she makes mistakes. You broke three of the mugs and did not sentence yourself to three days of starvation and self-condemnation but for breaking just two mugs you refused to eat her food for three whole days, despising and wasting her wifely efforts. You simply punished her severely for what you conveniently absolved yourself from when you broke three of the same mugs. Don’t you think that, that’s selfish, unfair and harsh?” I could see that he understood my point. “Thanks Sir. I never saw it this way.”
Simply put, marriage means that you have accepted your Spouse as yourself. When Adam first saw Eve, he knew instantly that she was his very flesh, blood and bones. And because couples are ONE FLESH in marriage, that’s why wives are referred to as their husband’s BETTER HALF. What you don’t nag at yourself for doing, don’t nag at your wife for doing it.
If you believe it’s madness for you to slap yourself on the cheek and tear your own shirt for forgetting to do something you should have done, then know that it’s MADNESS to raise your hand to slap your wife for any negligence or fault on her part.
Our anchor scripture is one of the greatest divine guidelines for living a peaceful and successful married life. In that verse, Christ commands us to do to others what we’d love them to do to us.
If you don’t love your night sleep disrupted by insensitive and loud prayers at a close range, then don’t ruin your spouse’s night sleep with a reckless and shouty prayer that wakes up every one in the home. God doesn’t need you screaming to hear your petition or be convinced to grant your request. What He needs your childlike faith! Neither does Satan require you yelling to obey your command. What he fears is Authority and Power not high sound decibels.
If you enjoy being treated with respect and dignity, then know that, that’s exactly what is good for your spouse. Go ahead and treat them with much respect and dignity and your union will be a sweet haven of pure Bliss.
How would you like to be corrected? With a loud and brash voice and in the front of children or with understanding, love, tenderness and in quiet privacy? If the later is your preference then know that, that’s the best approach for giving correction to your mate.
Always test your intended action on yourself before you actually perform them.
Love and loving become easy when we see others as our very selves and first consider how we would feel and fair if what we want to do to them were done to us.
If you often dream of how happy you’d be if you got a big, surprise credit alert dropping in your phone, just know that, that’s something that would thrill your husband or wife if you would do it for them. Plan and do it one day and you would have lifted your marriage to a whole new level.
We would never run short of wonderful ideas of how we could effectively love our mate and transform their lives, if we would seek to treat them as we would love to see ourselves treated.
🔥🔥🔥 FAITH DECREE:
🔥LET THE WIND OF LOVE THAT BLEW IN THE EARLY CHURCH BLOW NOW AND LET IT MOVE THE CHILDREN OF GOD TO REDISCOVER THE POWER OF LOVE AND TO KNOW THAT WE HAVE BEEN PLACED BY GOD IN CHRIST TO BEAR ONE ANOTHER’S BURDEN.
🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: ANY TIME YOUR SPOUSE GOOFS OR MAKES A MISTAKE, THAT’S YOUR GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY TO DEMONSTRATE YOUR OBEDIENCE TO THE GOLDEN RULE OF TREATING THEM AS YOU’D LOVE TO BE TREATED!
💕❤️ TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
Before sleeping tonight, do for your Partner THREE SIMPLE THINGS you’d enjoy being done for you.
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