OUR SCRIPTURE PASSAGE ABOVE presents the story of the rejection of Jephthah the Gileadite by his brothers and how that unjust act turned him into a rebel and a miscreant.
Today, many Spouses who were once sober, quite and nice have changed because of rejection from their Mate. They concluded that they’re only tolerated but not loved and wanted in the Marriage.
Beloved, let’s be frank with each other. You don’t need to verbalize your rejection of your partner before they know it. You may not express it in words but your body language and emotional outbursts easily give you away.
Rejection comes in different ways. A very beautiful housewife once told me: “My husband despises me.” That’s a strong sign of rejection. You can express your rejection of your partner by your irritated responses and anger. The scripture says:
“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”(Proverbs 21:9)
The couple in the verse above live in a mansion that’s beautiful and well furnished but the wife is A BRAWLER. A brawler is a person who fights angrily, noisily and roughly. A woman may not fight physically but being contentious and very quarrelsome is another form of brawling. When a woman is like this, the husband would prefer a small corner somewhere else where there’s peace and tranquility than living with her in the beautiful mansion. And this isn’t just something on the pages of scripture, it’s what has happened in real life again and again. Men have abandoned their wife and left everything in the home for her including the children and vanished to an unknown destination on account of being rejected by a woman who never accepts, approves or appreciates what they do in the home and family.
You needn’t say to your Spouse, “I don’t like you any more”, but your disdainful attitude, disrespectful utterances and belittling of them in front of your children and visitors speak volumes.
Truth be told: it’s not women alone that are guilty of rejecting their husbands, some husbands also do it. Some men treat their wives such contempt you wonder how on earth they proposed marriage to the lady in the first place. Being contemptuous of your partner is a clear confirmation that you reject them.
Stop disapproving of your mate. Even when they haven’t done excellently as you expected, recognize and appreciate the fact that they tried. They don’t need to score 100% before you accept their efforts.
In secondary school exams grading Scale:
75 – 100% is A1
70 – 74% is B2
65 – 69% is B3
60 – 64% is C4
55 – 59% is C5
50 – 54% is C6
Some of you, your Spouse’s score in every “matrimonial subject” is never less than 60% yet you never see it fit to acknowledge and appreciate them. You have this wrong belief that if you praise them, they’ll become proud. That’s wrong, dearly beloved.
Feed your husband or wife with sincere approval, praise and acceptance. We’re all at one level of growth or another. No one is perfect yet. NOT EVEN YOU. So, stop clobbering or hitting your mate with disapproval and rejection. It’s not good.
💕❤️TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
Reread today’s devotional piece just before bedtime and take time to appreciate each other.
JESUS IS LORD FOREVER!
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