🌏🌍Marriage as ordained by God is a sweet love affair.
🌏🌍However, if you’ve observed that the man or woman you married is more like a dangerous enemy than a Lover, then you better keep your eyes wide open!!
🌏🌍Yes, keep your two eyes open and don’t neglect the red flags or danger signals God graciously allows you to see in your partner’s behaviour.
🌏🌍If your partner exhibits extreme fury, uncontrollable anger and wrath, or signs of bloodthirstiness, then sit up in your mind.
🌏🌍Yes, marriage is truly a covenant union and you and your mate are bound to each other “for better for worse.” But remember that you were not sold to your husband or wife to beat, batter and butcher.
🌏🌍Several years ago, while on House to House Evangelism, I got to a certain neighborhood and preached.
After preaching, I usually allow my hearer(s) to ask questions. It was during this “question-time” that my hearer on this particular occasion told me what happened in a house that was very close to where we were standing.
🌏🌍A young couple who had not yet had their first baby lived there. They were professing born again Christians and members of a big and well known pentecostal church in Nigeria that has branches abroad.
🌏🌍Each time they had a misunderstanding, the wife would pick up the kitchen knife. The husband would smile. Again and again she did this. Unfortunately, her husband didn’t see the repeated pattern of picking up a knife as red flags or screaming warnings that spoke volumes.
🌏🌍And then one day during another misunderstanding, she picked up the kitchen knife once again. But this time it was different. She stabbed him contrary to all his expectations. The bleeding was so profuse that he couldn’t make it to the hospital.He died on the way!
Marriage cut short his young life.
🌏🌍Yes, marriage is truly “for better for worse until death do us part”. But the death meant in the Wedding Booklet with which the Officiating Minister conducted the nuptial and by which the couple made their marriage vow isn’t Death at the hands of a barbarian spouse but the divine call to glory at God’s time.
🌏🌍If your wife or husband is wildly dangerous, speak out! Don’t keep quiet!!
Let all those who matter in your life know what’s happening in your marriage.
🌏🌍Yes, tell your parents, your Pastor and all those who played one key role or another in the making of your marriage. They need to know what’s going in your life. Why?
🌏🌍Because they are stakeholders in your union. They are people who are in the position to call your animalistic partner to order. They are in the position to drum into his ears, mind and brain the fact that if anything untoward happens to you because of his/her irrational behaviour, they’ll hold him fully responsible. They could even get him to sign an undertaking pledging never to abuse you again and that in the event of a breach of that undertaking on his part, your family is free to take a legal recourse.
🌏🌍Many of those beating up their wives keep doing it because their wives don’t speak out early. That should change.
🌏🌍Finally, we must say this: Marriage is not an iron cage!
Where a husband or wife poses a danger to their mates life despite all efforts, the innocent Mate is free to leave the marriage and remain unmarried(1 Corinthians 7:10-11). This way the innocent Mate is safe.
🌏🌍And when ever the animalistic spouse recovers their senses and repents of their wild lifestyle; and the innocent partner can see evidences of real change, then reconciliation could take place. The reconciliation process should, however, involve the stakeholders we mentioned earlier. At least some of them. That way there’ll be a guarantee of safety for the innocent Mate.
❤️💕 TONIGHT’S ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
Reread the devotional piece just before bedtime and soberly discuss it.
📚📖🌹🍋QUOTES:
“How you treat your Mate speaks volumes on how dear and precious they are to you or otherwise.”(Anselm Ahman. From Lovebirds’ Devotional of February 27, 2024)
✝️ JESUS CHRIST IS CALLING YOU! COME TO HIM TODAY AND BE SAVED!!!
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