🧆🧆🧆1969. That is a year I remember easily for a number of reasons. It was the year I became a “Soldier of Christ” without being born again. Hahaha! It was also the year I ate buns for the first time.
I had eaten bread for years, but buns? No! I had never tasted anything quite like them during the long breaks of my years at St. Michael’s Junior Primary School, Ofiji, Idah. No flour products were sold in that smaller school. I encountered buns at St. Boniface Primary School and instantly liked them.
🧆🧆🧆MARRIAGE SIMILAR TO MAKING BUNS
Seeing how much I enjoyed buns, God blessed me with a very beautiful and virtuous wife who turned out to be a talented baker. Living with her, I learned that every flour-based product has its specific recipe. When you diligently follow the recipe, your product comes out tasting exactly as it should.
Dearly beloved, do you know that marriage is no different? There is a “recipe” for making a marriage that is not only mouthwateringly “tasty” but will last until death with the flavour remaining unaltered!
Just as flour is the primary ingredient for making cakes, pastries, and all other flour-based delicacies, so are SUBMISSION and LOVE the basic virtues for “making” a glorious and durable marriage.
Every ingredient that goes into the production of buns, for instance, has its definite measurements. Here is an example:
* All-purpose flour: 2 cups (approx. 250g)
* Sugar: ½ cup (adjust to taste)
* Baking powder: 1 teaspoon
* Butter or Margarine: 2 tablespoons (softened/room temperature)
* Egg: 1 medium-sized
* Milk or Water: ½ cup (evaporated milk provides a richer taste)
* Nutmeg: ½ teaspoon (grated)
* Salt: ¼ to ½ teaspoon
* Vegetable Oil: For deep frying.
With these, all you need to do is follow the recommended procedure for baking or frying(not included here), and you will have tasty buns.
🧆🧆🧆SUBMISSION AND LOVE
Similarly, there is a measure of submission that God has specified for wives to give to their husbands. It is the measure of submission they give to Him as Creator! Take a look at Scripture:
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, AS UNTO THE LORD.”(Ephesians 5:22)
The last four words of that verse tell us the measure as well as the quality of submission God demands: the same deep, profound, and total submission that they give to Him as God. Truth be told: there is no husband who receives that depth of submission consistently who can do anything but love his wife overwhelmingly!
How about husbands? God demands that husbands love their wives. He specifies the kind of love He wants them to demonstrate: the self-giving and self-sacrificing love that Jesus demonstrated toward the Church by dying for it on the Cross(Ephesians 5:25). There is no wife who, being loved so deeply, extravagantly, and supremely, would not have her heart aflame with devotion for her husband.
The reason so many marriages are not “getting it” is that wives are not giving the full measure of submission God has stipulated, and husbands are not giving the self-sacrificing love God has commanded.
🧆🧆🧆RETURN TO GOD’S RECIPE
Perhaps you have been thinking that the problem with your marriage is incompatibility, a mismatch, that you married in a rush, that you married without knowing what marriage entails or “spiritual attacks” from the village. Beloved, none of these is the primary problem. You simply haven’t been using God’s recipe for a good and sweet marriage.
Today, make up your mind to use God’s recipe. As you do, your marriage and home will be completely transformed into a sweet colony of Heaven!
💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional piece just before bedtime and sincerely discuss it together.
📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“Just as Spouses own their home, their children and the furnishings of their home in common because they’re One Flesh, so also should they share in each other’s Love life abilities and potentials.
If, for instance, the Wife has a massive and fierce sexual appetite and the husband is the complete opposite, he should see Madam’s libido as a Gift for their common usage in the marriage; because that’s exactly what it is.”(Anselm Ahman. From Lovebirds’ Devotional of February 25, 2026)
✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today and be saved!
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