🍞🧈🍝🫕Stanley, a 28-year-old newly employed civil servant stationed in a small village, came to his elder brother’s house in the city for the weekend. He was warmly received at the gate by his brother’s children with chants of, “Uncle Stan! Uncle Stan!”
He wheeled his luggage to the guest room, changed into casual wear, and headed to the kitchen, heedless of the housemaid’s words that “Mummy” doesn’t like people barging into her kitchen uninvited.
🍞🧈🍝🫕THE ACTS OF STANLEY
Opening one of the drawers, he found three crates of eggs. He got himself a plate, broke six eggs, and started frying himself breakfast. Done with frying, he opened the refrigerator, brought out a full loaf of bread, and went down to the dining area to enjoy a meal of fried eggs and bread.
The children watched him in stunned silence as he ate with his phone playing a gospel song at its highest volume.
🍞🧈🍝🫕THE ARRIVAL OF MUMMY
Midway through his meal, his brother’s wife, Ējamàká, walked into the sitting room, and the children ran to meet her, telling her that Uncle Stan was around. She didn’t need to be told because she had sighted him as soon as she walked through the door. Her instincts told her he had “done it again.”
She headed straight to the kitchen and discovered that half a dozen eggs were gone. She steeled herself and refused to react.
By the time he finished his meal, Stanley called out, “Our Wife! Good morning. Happy weekend!”
His brother’s wife didn’t answer him, as her concern in those moments was to control her emotions.
🍞🧈🍝🫕BEDROOM CONFERENCE
That evening, after her husband, a Bank manager had arrived home, eaten his meal, and showered, she felt it was time to talk to him.
As they sat in the bedroom, she told him how his brother always stormed into her kitchen, which, as every sane person knows, is her exclusive precinct as a woman and wife. She told him how, instead of asking the housemaid to get him something to eat, he had barged into her kitchen to cook and take things without her knowledge.
She told him she had had enough of his misbehaviour, and that he must address the matter immediately as her husband and the head of the home, or she would have to do it herself.
🍞🧈🍝🫕WELCOME, BUT DON’T TRESPASS!
Dear Reader, did you enjoy the fictitious story above? I hope you did. But the truth is this: in several homes, the story above isn’t just an interesting tale; it is their present reality.
A wife finds her place, authority, and dignity in the home constantly challenged and rubbished by young and old in-laws, all because of their wrong belief that the home of their son, brother, or uncle is an extension of their family home in the village, and that they can do as they please in “our son/brother/uncle’s” house.
But this is completely wrong and needs to be corrected before more damage is done.
🍞🧈🍝🫕EVERY HUSBAND
The heart of today’s devotional message is that every husband must put his foot down and ensure that every one of his visiting relatives knows that his home is not, and shall not be, an extension of the family house in the village. It is a new domain where he and his wife are exclusively in charge.
Yes, relatives are warmly welcome 24/7, but they must not trespass or be lawless. They must not directly or indirectly challenge the authority of the wife, who is the mother of the home, even if she is young in age.
🍞🧈🍝🫕LEAD BY EXAMPLE
Sir, if you want your people to respect and honour your wife as they ought to, you must also guard against doing or saying anything that would make them look down on, belittle, despise, or disrespect her.
You must openly adore her, highly esteem her, and constantly honour her in their presence, and they will have no option but to walk in your footsteps.
I know of a godly husband who calls his wife “Ma,” just as she calls him “Sir.” You think he is taking humility to the extreme, right? No! It is a matter of understanding.
He understands that the Head (husband) and the Body (wife) are one and share the same honour (1 Corinthians 12:26), and that honouring his wife is honouring himself (Ephesians 5:28).
🍞🧈🍝🫕CONCLUSION
Like we said in yesterday’s devotional, “Every marriage is a new and independent unit, free from being tied to the apron strings of the husband’s parents or relatives.”
Inasmuch as husbands cannot help but love their parents, siblings, and close relatives, they must also be watchful to ensure that in-laws and relatives do not, in any way, encroach upon the dignity and liberty of the wife in her own home.
He must ensure that his parents don’t turn his wife into an errand girl, and that his siblings do not denigrate or disrespect her.🫕
💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with an open and sincere heart.
📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“Your spouse is a unique species, the only one of their kind. You probably haven’t heard this before but I’m sent to authoritatively tell you. Your spouse is an excellent gift from the God of Heaven. They’re a bestowal of His divine favour on you.”(Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds’ Devotional, May 30, 2026)
✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! It doesn’t matter how far you’ve gone in sin. Come to Him, believe in Him and you’ll be gloriously saved!!!
🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
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