🩷🌹A housewife said of her husband’s lovemaking, “I find him rather brutal when we make love in the evening.” This housewife’s testimony of her husband’s poor handling of her during sexual intimacy gives us a glimpse of what is happening in many marriages.
I have read of another lady, a British woman, whose husband didn’t deem it necessary for them to make love more than three times in the 365 days that make one year. And during those rare occasions, his lovemaking was more like giving an injection: sharply painful. For reasons like this and more, God has seen it necessary to set up ministries that focus on teaching marriage in general and its respective “departments” in particular, including especially the bedroom life.
🩷🌹THE BEDROOM LIFE
Knowledge of the crucial place of companionship, communication, dressing, cleanliness, affection, passion, forgiveness, etc., in marriage is very important. However, knowledge of the bedroom life is the most fundamental. It is where the one-flesh union is formed and sustained. For a husband to be found brutal in such a sacred act shows how completely ignorant he is in this area and how urgently important it is for him to be trained very quickly before he ends up harming the body of his long-suffering wife.
🩷🌹SIR, SEX IS NOT BUTCHERY!
Dear husband, sexual intimacy is not an activity that requires “hard energy.” No. It is called sexual intercourse because it is a time of fellowship or “communing” with someone you deeply love. It is also called “making love” or “lovemaking” because it is a time of gentleness, tenderness, and softness when you express love to each other by gentle kisses, caressing, and speaking loving and affectionate words to each other.
🩷🌹THE BODY OF YOUR WIFE
The body of your wife is not wood, stone, or a cement block that you need to grasp very firmly with all your energy. No, no, no!
Every part of your wife’s body is tender and sensitive and needs to be treated with the utmost respect, love, and affection.
Her breasts are not like oranges, mangoes, or pawpaws. They are never to be squeezed like you squeeze oranges. No, no, no! They are to be caressed, fondled, and adoringly kissed. Look up the dictionary for the meaning of the words “fondling” and “caressing.” Proper understanding of those words will help you treat your wife’s breasts rightly.
🩷🌹YOUR WIFE IS NOT A MAT OR MATTRESS
Dearly beloved husband, you are not supposed to lie down on your wife and rest your full weight on her during sexual intimacy as you would on a mat or a mattress. No, no, no! You are to support your weight by lying over her, with your knees and elbows bearing your body’s weight. And if the two of you would be adventurous in your bedroom life, you will discover the ultimate biblical position for sexual intimacy. In this position, you won’t need to bear your own weight on your elbows and knees. The two of you will be fully free and yet make love with utmost liberty.
🩷🌹YOUR MANHOOD IS NOT A HAMMER
During the ultimate act of intimacy, you should still be mindful of the fact that your wife’s body is not stone, wood, or a cement block. Don’t hammer her, even if you are a carpenter by profession.
Don’t hit her like the butcher does the meat in the abattoir. Your wife is a living, breathing female human being with feelings. So don’t treat her like the butcher treats a dead cow.
Don’t get so carried away in the heat of lovemaking that you grip her firmly with all your might, squeezing or pressing her and almost breaking her ribs because you say, “The thing is too sweet; I didn’t even know what I was doing.” You know what you are doing because you did not run berserk or mad because of the “sweetness.” Sexual intimacy never robs anyone of their senses.
🩷🌹CONCLUSION
Be sensitive. Know what you are doing. Listen to your wife’s feedback on your sexual performance. If she is complaining about how you are handling her in bed, please pay close attention and promptly make adjustments. Harlots might have tolerated your roughness and carelessness because they could afford it since you paid them, but certainly not a wife. Make love to your wife tenderly and soberly. Don’t make war against her body and health in the name of sex!🌹
💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with an open and sincere heart.
📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“Your spouse was divinely constructed, wired, equipped, and packaged to last you until death and to satisfy all your love needs, as well as your wholesome romantic desires. More importantly, your spouse was created with the capacity to grow better, sweeter, and richer romantically with every passing year.”(Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds’ Devotional, June 20, 2026)
✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today in genuine repentance. Believe in Him and be saved!
🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
“For married couples, regular kissing is much more than a sign of affection. It provides concrete physical and emotional health benefits by lowering stress hormones, sparking the release of natural bonding chemicals, and strengthening immune defenses through the shared exchange of oral bacteria.”
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