AT THE END OF A MARRIAGE SEMINAR IN A BIG CHURCH, during which over 90% of the questions asked were on Sex, I had a personal conversation with a leading female attendee, a responsible woman in her late fifties, who told me that most wives don’t like Sex simply because they just don’t enjoy it. Their husbands weren’t doing it well. I was hearing something that most wives wouldn’t volunteer to divulge or disclose.
Now, compare what she revealed with the statement of the woman in our anchor scripture. The eager desire and high enthusiasm of the lady in our anchor scripture shows a woman who truly enjoyed intimacy with her husband. More importantly, it shows a man who is more than just a husband: HE’S A FABULOUS LOVER.
Every wife NEEDS a husband who isn’t just a good ruler of the household but also a fantastic lover in the bedroom and outside of it.
TIPS THAT WILL HELP YOU BECOME A FANTASTIC LOVER TO YOUR WIFE IN THE BEDROOM
1) UNDERSTAND THE LOVE-NATURE OF YOUR WIFE AND ADAPT TO HER
A woman is different from a man sexually. God deliberately gave her a slower pace of arousal. Don’t hurry her up. Rather, follow her; adapt to her.
A wife needs a gradual build up of her passion before intercourse commences. She needs to be warmed up like a car after a cold night. This warming up happens as her husband slowly stimulates and caresses her gradually, gently and unhurriedly; giving heed to her suggestions on where to touch her.
2) GOOD LOVEMAKING TAKES TIME
Lovemaking with a wife is COMPLETELY DIFFERENT from visiting harlots. The harlots are in a hurry and those who patronize them must be brief since there are other customers waiting. The harlot isn’t after orgasms but her money.
But your wife isn’t trading her love. She’s freely sharing it with you as a covenant act of love and she’s entitled to a harvest of Orgasms. Unfortunately, many husbands bring the hurried approach they used with harlots into their marriage. As a result, they don’t last in bed. They’re done within a few minutes and they expect their wife to be satisfied. Doesn’t work that way. Wives by nature are designed for long-range intercourse. Now, pay attention to the next point.
3) LOVEMAKING IS LIKE FARMING.
Good lovemaking is similar to farming. In farming, you clear the field and make ridges. Secondly you plant and take care of the plants diligently. Thirdly, you harvest. Each of these phases take some time.
Similarly, your lovemaking must go through three processes. Firstly, loveplay: during which you gradually warm her up extensively and patiently. Secondly, blending: this is joining your manhood with her womanhood. This should be unhurried and should last for as long as she desires. Thirdly, the harvest time: which involves a sustained stay on the “Plateau of Orgasms” where Madam plucks all the orgasms she needs. As a husband, you must keep your systems “ON” until she’s done and tells you she’s satisfied. Then you can “shut down”. If you “shut down” mistakenly when she didn’t tell you she’s satisfied, it’s not a crime but you missed it and should apologize to her. Endeavour not to miss it next time.
In these three phases, the husband must discipline himself, be unselfish and faithfully wait for his wife to harvest all the pleasure she needs before they’ll both climb down together from the plateau.
4) TRAINING
Mastering Points 1-3 above isn’t difficult but takes training. Therefore, the couple should cooperate with each other and have time to practice. In all things, “Practice Makes Perfect”.
💕❤️TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
Reread today’s devotional piece together and discuss it.
JESUS IS LORD FOREVER!!!
Author: ANSELM AHMAN; +234 8034675321
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