A HOUSEWIFE COMPLAINED about her husband’s lovemaking and said: “I FIND HIM RATHER BRUTAL WHEN WE MAKE LOVE IN THE EVENINGS.” Are husband’s reading? Does this give you any clue as to why some wives are no longer interested in “the evening programme”?
Sir, sexual intimacy isn’t carpentry, panel beating or worse still, pounding yam at the roadside restaurant for Madam Nancy.
What God gave you isn’t a Pestle neither is it a Hammer. And neither is your wife’s body a Mortar or a Blacksmith’s Anvil. If you’ve learned the gutter language of Sinners who refer to Sex as “Knacking”, then you have need to unlearn those wrong and harmful concepts. They’re crude and indelicate and have no place in a godly marriage.
As a husband, you’re in Marriage to be a Lover and an Adorer to your wife and not a Wrestler. You need to understand that during the hour of sexual intimacy, you’re dealing with THE DELICATE BODY OF A WOMAN. In that serene hour, you’re with her to adore her body by verbal admirations as well as by nonverbal acknowledgements of her soft and gentle feminity, thereby giving her emotional joy and delight. You’re also with her in that hour to give her waves and waves of physical and sensual pleasures and ecstasies; and not to inflict injuries, pains and aches that she’d need to nurse afterwards. When it’s this way, it’s no more sexual intimacy but sexual fight in which you are the bully and predator and she the hapless victim. When you invite for “intimacy” another day, she’ll tell you she has a headache!
Sir, to be a Lover and an Adorer to your wife in the hour of sexual love, here are some helpful guidelines.
(1) KNOW AND FOLLOW GOD’S ASSIGNMENT FOR YOU IN THE BEDROOM
Whenever it’s time for intimacy with your wife, remember that your assignment is summarized in 1 Corinthians 7:3A
“Let the husband RENDER unto the wife DUE BENEVOLENCE”(1 Corinthians 7: 3A)
Your assignment in the bedroom is to RENDER, GIVE, MINISTER and PROVIDE sexual blessings which the words DUE BENEVOLENCE stand for.
Due Benevolence means blessing, kindness and goodwill (1 Corinthians 7:3). Put another way, these blessings are sexual pleasures that range from the pleasures of arousal and all the other delights that follow until your wife reaches the pinnacle of them all which is the Orgasms. You’re in the bedroom in the hour of sexual intimacy to minister those blessings to her. There’s no way you’ll be giving someone blessings and you’ll need to be brutal to successfully do so. No! The husband of the woman in our opening paragraph is likely to be someone who unfortunately opened his mind to pornography and learned their satanic and cruel sex styles.
To be able to successfully RENDER DUE BENEVOLENCE to your wife, you would need to forget yourself and focus on giving her pleasure IN THE WAY SHE LOVES AND ENJOYS. This means you’ll be attentive to her and do what she enjoys and refrain from what she objects to. When you do this, you’re walking in true love. True love doesn’t seek it’s own; it’s not self-centered. Love seeks the satisfaction of the Spouse.
Now hear this: as you prioritize your wife’s satisfaction above your own, you’ll find satisfaction through her satisfaction because you’re one flesh! (If she however requests any act that your conscience doesn’t accept, you’re free to politely object)
(2) DON’T BRING THE WORLD INTO YOUR MARRIAGE BEDROOM
The Bible tells us not to love the world and the things that are in it. (1 John 2:15). It also commands us not to comform to the world (Romans 12: 2). In the world, they have over a hundred styles and positions of lovemaking. Dearly Beloved, don’t follow them! Some of those positions are so weird and so funny that even acrobats and gymnasts can’t practice them. Don’t let anyone deceive you!
As a married couple, you’ll gradually discover by yourself and for yourself the sexual positions that are best for the two of you. Don’t follow other couple’s suggestions. Discover for yourselves the positions that are most suitable for you and in which you’re both COMFORTABLE while making love.
(3) MAKE LOVE WITH KNOWLEDGE
1 Peter 3:7A commands husbands to relate with their wives knowledgeably.
Don’t let ignorance have a place in your bedroom life.
Knowledge tells you that it’s important you are clean and not dirty and smelly when coming for Intimacy. Knowledge tells you that your hands play major roles in the act of sexual intimacy, therefore your hands should be clean, smooth and your fingers well trimmed, so you don’t wound your wife during the acts.
Knowledge also tells you that you don’t put your weight on your wife during lovemaking. Instead, you bear your weight on your elbows and knees, so that you don’t press your wife down.
Knowledge further tells you to shave off your stubbles before sexual intimacy, if you’re not keeping a full beard. Why? Because stubbles are prickly and could hurt and injure your wife’s face.
(4) GIVE ATTENTION TO DETAILS IN SEEKING TO GIVE HER PLEASURE
It’s been my observation that most Barbers are good at their work. Sometimes, I’ve been surprised at the extent they go and their attention to details in ensuring that at the end of your time in their shop, you don’t come out looking funny but dignified and respectable.
Husbands need to give their wife
that kind of unhurried attention during intimate times. Spend time. Give attention to details. Lovingly visit of her erogenous “regions” and then spend time at her Clitoris City before boarding the spaceship together flying out to other planets and back to Earth.
Don’t be in the habit of rushing to “do it” quickly and going to sleep except if that’s what your wife wants.
🔥🔥🔥 FAITH DECREE:
🔥LET EVERY HUSBAND READING THIS DEVOTIONAL PIECE, RECEIVE GRACE TO BE A GOOD LOVER AND ADORER TO HIS WIFE!⚡
🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: RENDER SEXUAL BLESSINGS OF PLEASURES TO YOUR WIFE. AVOID WHATEVER WOULD CAUSE HER PAINS OR HURT.
💕❤️ TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM
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