MARRIAGE IS SUCCESSFUL only as it’s built on the characteristics or virtues of Love that are recorded in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. As a Married Lover and Lovebird, it’s imperative that you’re always prepared to demonstrate those virtues as occasions call for them.
The wonderful couple in our anchor scripture for today got hurt emotionally and physically as a result of the Lady’s failure to set aside her petty selfishness and receive her spouse who was beaten by the drizzle of the night. She dilly-dallied until her man was angry and left. In her efforts to right the wrong she had done, she set out to look for him. She was demonstrating her love but at the wrong time. The result? O, she ran into security operatives who were on night shift and she was beaten and wounded and her veil taken away for unlawful movement at night! Thank God they didn’t call her “Harlot, Prostitute and Whore!”.
What lessons can we learn from the incidents recorded in the passage above? Here are some:
1. IN MARRIAGE, DON’T THINK ONLY OF YOURSELF; CONSIDER YOUR PARTNER AS WELL.
The lady was thinking of how her delicateness would be tampered with if she stepped out of bed to open the door for her Spouse(Songs 5:3) But what was the distance between her bed and the door? How big was her room that she couldn’t walk across and open the door for her Spouse who was out in the cold? In her efforts to undo the wrong she’d done, she walked through whole streets!
2. IN MARRIAGE SACRIFICE IS A MUST
She wasn’t willing to sacrifice her Comfort and Beauty Preparations.
If she had chosen to step on the floor, walked to the door and received her man, she could still have redone her beautification that night or the next and lost nothing. But now, she got beaten and even lost her veil.
When your spouse genuinely needs something, give it to them gladly knowing that whatever you give will come back to you somehow, somewhere, and sometime; because the laws of sowing and reaping are real and always working.
3.IN MARRIAGE DON’T DRAG YOUR FEET TO DO WHAT YOU OUGHT TO DO.
This lady wasn’t a stonehearted. She eventually decided to open the door but alas, it was too late. Her feet dragging and dillidallying angered her man, making him leave.
Show love to your spouse when they need it and not when it’s convenient.
In Marriage, you can’t truly love without inconveniencing yourself for your Partner. Love goes hand in hand with suffering and self inconveniencing.
4. TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN MARRIAGE, YOU MUST REFUSE TO GIVE ANGER A PLACE IN YOUR HEART.
The fault of the man was that he got impatient and angry; and left! The lady was going to open the door but behold, he was already gone by the time she did. Supposing he was patient and had stayed until the door was opened, it probably would have been one of their best nights together.
In Marriage, we must be patient. We must exercise endurance and self-control. In Marriage we are meant to serve as “Saviour” to one another. His patience and endurance would have saved his Woman from going out in search of him and being beaten by security operatives. If it were in our time, she probably would have been raped by hoodlums and cult boys who parade the night. That would have been too costly a price to pay for impatience.
In Marriage patience is of paramount importance.
5. LOVEBIRDS ALSO MAKE MISTAKES BECAUSE THEY’RE NOT PERFECT
Looking at the depth of intimacy between these two Lovebirds in all their interactions from chapter 1 to 4, it seemed they would never clash. But, behold what happened in chapter 5!
The lesson here is that Couples are not perfect. They can and will make mistakes. When they do, please don’t crucify them.
6. TWO WRONGS CANNOT MAKE A RIGHT
Another lesson we will take away from our anchor scripture is that two wrongs can’t make a right.
If the man had endured the cold and waited, the situation wouldn’t have warranted the woman going out and being beaten.
When ever there’s a misunderstanding between you and your spouse, ensure that you’re not adding to the crisis. Always stand on the side of righteousness and peace.
7. A GOOD REASON NEVER JUSTIFIES A WRONG DEED.
The woman had a reason for initially not wanting to step out of the bed and open the door: she was wearing her beauty treatment.
The man had his reason for being impatient and angry and walking away: she was not responding to his knocks on the door; she was silent.
But did their reasons justify their selfish and loveless actions? No!
Finally, remember that Eve had reasons for eating the forbidden fruit: it was good for food, it was pleasant to the eyes, and it was desirable to make one wise. But those reasons never justified her when God judged her. The devil will give you “reasons” to mistreat your Spouse but those reasons are untenable before the Most High when He comes to judge you!!
❤️TODAY’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT
Today, read the Songs of Solomon together from chapter 5-6.
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