On July 14, 2025, I received the message below from a foreign based Pastor who faithfully reads Lovebirds’ Devotional.
“Good day Sir.
Can I have something to lift up the spirit of widows and widowers?”
I promptly accepted to do so but in all honesty, I had no message. Neither then nor many days after.
Bless God, a message finally dropped in my spirit last week Saturday and this morning, I perceived it’s time to write it. I also felt I should post it on Lovebirds’ Devotional to reach a wider audience. Of course, the Pastor will pick it from Lovebirds’ and share to the specific people he has in mind.
1) THE MARRIAGE VOWS
When Spouses merrily mouth the marriage vows in a beautiful and fully packed cathedral with camera lights flashing, the filming crew busy filming, the Chief Bridesmaid attending to the Bride, the bridal train members all looking resplendent and luscious, the congregation aglow with joy and the entire church hall fragrant with the sweet smell from the blending of diverse perfumes, the last thing that comes into the mind of the Groom and the Bride is that one day, Death would come to abruptly bring to an end what’s being joined.
For some, this parting came much too early leaving them in tears that just won’t dry up. For others, it came after over fifty years of marriage, when the children are all grown up and on their own. But the truth remains: the long years spent together doesn’t make the parting any easier. It comes, as usual, with tears and heartbreak; and the Spouse left behind find themselves tagged with a name they never dreamed would one day be part of their identity.
2) IN THE VALLEY OF A NEW NAME AND NEW NEEDS
Prophet Ezekiel was spiritually transported into the valley of dry bones and soon made his return landing in the physical land of the living unhurt(Ezekiel 37:1-3). But for widows and widowers, the experience is different. It’s never spiritual or metaphysical. It’s real and filled with deep grief, desolation, burning needs, unjust blame (as the case may be), emotional pains, and a thousand questions that repeat themselves in the mind and are unheard by none but the widow or widower.
Here’s the real life experience of one widow whose two sons were almost sold into SLAVERY but for divine intervention.
“One day the widow of a member of the group of prophets came to Elisha and cried out, “My husband who served you is dead, and you know how he feared the Lord. But now a creditor has come, threatening to take my two sons as slaves.”(2 Kings 4:1)
Can you capture the pain of this Ex-wife, who’s now branded with the name “Widow”? The threat that her two sons would be sold as slaves was harrowing but that’s not all. At such moments, the experience of the death of her beloved husband comes freshly to her mind in full force and the tears flow freely. Of course, no matter how much those tears flow, they’ll not solve the pressing needs.
The happy news is that the God Who showed up for the widow in the bible passage above is there for every widow and widower! The Scripture says:
“For your Maker is your husband,
the Lord of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer,
the God of the whole earth he is called.”(Isaiah 54:5)
What glorious and sweet relief the verse above offers to every widow and widower!
Yes, you lost your human Spouse but you’re not going to walk alone! You have a new Spouse. And He is God Almighty.
In yet another scripture we read:
“A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.”(Psalm 68:5)
Your children have a new Father in the Person of God. He is and will always be there for you and your children: to protect, provide and preserve.
Therefore, cast all your burdens on Him and He will beautifully sustain you and your family.
3) THE ROLE OF COUPLES IN THE LIVES OF WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS
The Word of God exhorts us to REMEMBER those who are in bonds as though we’re the very ones imprisoned(Hebrews 13:3). Of course, widowhood/widowerhood isn’t imprisonment but apparently it’s pain. And since in the Body of Christ we’re one, God demands that the pain of the widows, orphans and widowers be felt and shared by all Believers. Not just the few Ministries that have taken up the concern of widows and orphans to heart.
You and your Spouse can take it upon yourselves to do something, even if it’s just something small, to make a widow or widower feel that they’re not forgotten.
Our anchor scripture defines
what constitutes true spirituality. It’s to be personally mindful of widows and orphans and to VISIT THEM IN THEIR AFFLICTION.
And please, note this. A widow or widower may be all smiles yet they’re walking barefoot through high wildfires of fiery affliction. They won’t let it show on their faces because it’s needless doing so. But irrespective of that, God says, make time to visit them. Your visitation needn’t be physical. A phone call, a text message, a caring voice note on WhatsApp, a surprise cash gift to take care of the kids’ needs, etc, are loving ways of visiting them. Just ensure that you reach out!
4) A FINAL WORD TO WIDOWS AND WIDOWERS
Your greatest Friend and Supporter remains God. Fix your eyes and heart on Him. He will not fail you.
That your human Spouse has been called home is never an excuse to give room to the flesh and sexual immorality. The truth is: on the day God withdrew your Partner, He instantly released upon you the necessary Grace to enable you walk in purity. This Grace is called “the way to escape” in 1 Corinthians 10:13. Don’t receive this grace in vain
In conclusion, be open to God’s purpose and plan for your life. God might want you to remarry after the time of grieving is over. If this be so, be obedient. Aimee Semple McPherson became widowed. After sometime she remarried. It was in that second marriage that God used her to found the Foursquare Church that’s in different countries of the world today.
So, cheer up because the best is still ahead!
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