LONG AGO, I MET A STRIKINGLY beautiful married woman who in the course of our conversation told me that when she was a Spinster, she was once “camped” in one of the most prestigious and highly expensive five-star hotels in Africa by a married man for six months!
Now, what can you instantly deduce from this? It’s that extramarital affairs don’t just happen; they’re well-funded from the pockets of the men involved.
Those pretty ladies accept to go out because they’re taken to swanky hotels where the sheer ambience as well as the beauty of the suites’ interior decorations and furnishings alone almost immediately turn them on and set them in the LOVE MODE. And in such places, the men go on to show their wealth or affableness by telling the ladies to order just about whatever they’d love to eat and drink. They’re spoilt silly with luxury and gifts; and so they give themselves wholly and fully to those men without looking back or giving thoughts to the possibility of grave and negative consequences.
Now, compare the above scenario with that of a housewife who has had to put up with just two meals per day for the past one week because “things are hard in the country” and her husband’s employer hasn’t yet paid him.
By 4:30 PM, her equally illfed Hubby arrives home from work, drops his battered briefcase on the chair in the sparsely furnished sitting room, walks over to Wifey in the kitchen with a smile and tries to plant a kiss on her cheek; and she turns her face the other way. He’s immediately stung by her cold rebuff. And suddenly there’s an emotional distance between the two.
Listen, it’s not that there’s no more love between them. It’s just that the wife’s “romantic engines” are down at that moment as a result of the prevalent economic hardships in the home.
It’s important for husbands to know that, there’s naturally a correlation between romantic love and abundance. Lack and poverty are like the East Wind in Pharaoh’s dream that blasted the seven ears of the second corn (Genesis 41:23).
When God planted a beautiful and fragrant garden that overflowed with tasty fruits of diverse kinds as the home of the first couple, it was a loud message to all married couples of future generations that LOVE AND MARRIAGE THRIVE IN BEAUTIFUL AND PASSION-INVIGORATING SETTINGS WHERE THERE’S PLENTY OF DAINTY FOODS TO GLADDEN THE TASTE BUDS.
You and your spouse are legitimate and divinely authorized Lovers with the licence from God to practice Love on all levels. But you need to also know that the flow of romantic love isn’t automatic most of the time. You create the right atmosphere for it.
Now, take a look at our anchor scripture passage.
In verse 6, the lady confessed that she was hungry for love. Put very bluntly, she was simply saying that she was hungry for sexual intimacy! She couldn’t keep her thighs together anymore; she was strongly feeling like opening them for her Spouse. But how did it all grow to this boiling point?
(1) The man first took her to the Banquet House. That’s where the romantic feelings began to build up. Happy feelings and good mood take time to build up. They’re not built up by bullying, coercion or quoting scriptures to frighten the woman.
(2) In the Banquet House, he showered her with Love. Mind you , there were other people in the Banqueting House, so the showering with love wasn’t intimate activities. They included respect, honour, serving her and doing things for her. What’s next?
(3) We see the lady’s next level of feelings: she’s fainting with love! Our anchor scripture says that she became HUNGRY FOR LOVE and in her deep passion she desires some delectable “eatables and drinkables”: raisins, apples and wine. Now, can you see the place of fine foods and drinks during the hour of romantic love?
It’s a long time the Lord taught me that one of the ways the devil fights couples is to make them financially incapacitated so they won’t have enough to fund their romantic lives.
Now, what’s the message in all of this? It’s this: Romantic Love is a natural part of your marriage. But it’s your duty as Spouses to create the atmosphere for it to bloom. Make efforts to provide for it financially.
Have the Boyfriend and Girlfriend mindset or mentality ALL THE TIME. Get alone together often and have some delicacies to eat together. Have some healthy drinks to share. Spoil each other with attention and affection; and you’ll find that you’re so soon in the LOVE MODE. When you’re there, Madam might be the one who will lead the way as you move up to the next level of Love; just like the godly and pious lady in our anchor scriptures for today.
🔥🔥🔥 FAITH DECREE:
🔥LET YOUR MARRIAGE BE ENDUED WITH THE GRACE TO A BECOME A BIBLICAL MATRIMONY THAT FUNCTIONS ON ALL LEVELS OF LOVE! ⚡
🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: ROMANTIC LOVE SHOULD BE A CONSTANT PART OF YOUR MARRIAGE. MAKE EFFORTS TO CREATE THE ATMOSPHERE FOR IT TO BLOOM IN YOUR UNION.
💕❤️ TONIGHT’S ONE FLESH ASSIGNMENT IN THE BEDROOM.
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