BE MATURED MINDED!
At creation Adam was a full-grown man. And Eve was also created a fully matured woman. The point here is that Marriage was not, is not and should never be a relationship childish persons. It’s a union of two mature minded adults. You must possess self control and self-restraint.
WALK IN MODERATION
It therefore means that Spouses must be persons who have the discernment, the understanding and the judgement to know their right from their left; and what’s right to do and what’s not, at any given time. More importantly, they need to be people who have the sense of moderation and therefore do things in the right measure and to the right limit.
MATURED SPOUSES WILLINGLY SACRIFICE THEIR RIGHTS
Truly, marriage confers on both husband and wife several beautiful rights and privileges.
However, the realities of life would sometimes put a complete hold on your matrimonial rights and the best thing to do at such a time would be to sacrifice your privileges. And why not? After all, the sacrifice is only temporary.
MATURE SPOUSES CONTROL THEIR APPETITE
In our anchor scriptures, two sets of leaders are presented: The miserable and unfit leaders and the praiseworthy ones.
The miserable and unfit set consists of an immature king and his cabinet of similarly small-minded princes whose focus is pleasure rather than good governance and statesmanship.
The second set of leaders are men who know that their priority as leaders is governance and so they control their appetites and natural inclinations.
In marriage, Spouses are King and Queen respectively. They’re set as rulers of the realm of the Home. They are Patriarch and Matriarch respectively. They’re builders of a lineage and a generation. In view of this lofty status and calling, they must constantly watch against lack of self control and overindulgence.
CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL APPETITE
For instance, it’s your mutual rights to make love as often as you desire; in as much as you’re not on a mutually consented Fast.
However, the circumstances of life could sometimes make this completely impossible.
It could be because there are so many guests and visitors in the home, some of whom have to sleep on your marriage bed, because of the wedding of a loved one. At such a time it would be most unreasonable for one you to be silently angry because you can’t make love. That would be pure childishness.
Sometimes, it’s not Sex but your privilege as the head of the home that you have to sacrifice.
A fine gentleman suddenly returned home to find that his Mother in-law was around. He and his wife lived in a one bedroom apartment with their three young children. And they had just one bed: their marriage bed. As soon as he saw the situation, he knew he had to give up his rights to the marriage bed. He couldn’t see how he would let his Mother-in-law sleep on the floor in the sitting room with the kids and himself and her daughter would be on their matrimonial bed. He chose to sleep in the parlour with the children while his wife and her mother had the bed. That’s maturity and temperance.
EXERCISE TEMPERANCE IN YOUR EATING, DRINKING, ETC
In marriage, you must at all times walk in temperance and maturity.
You must exercise temperance and maturity in your eating, drinking, watching the television, your use of your phone, in your spending, use of time, etc.
The fact that God has moved you out of the rut of poverty into wealth doesn’t mean you can now eat and overeat and become a Glutton. The blessing of a good and sturdy Jeep doesn’t mean it’s time to travel to every burial in the village. Walk in maturity. Let the Spirit of God lead you. Have a rule over your feelings, mood and appetites.
Don’t become addicted to anything except to godliness, righteousness and holiness.
💕❤️Tonight’s Assignment In The Bedroom:
Reread today’s devotional piece together and discuss it.
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