🩷💛🧡💚❤️Marriage is truly a love relationship; and husband and wife are indeed one flesh. Nevertheless, it is never a “master-servant” or a “slave owner and slave” relationship.
Marriage never implies that the wife was sold to her husband to reduce to a piece of furniture or something else or less.
The dowry was never a down payment for the purchase of a possession. It was merely a token of honour for the bestowal of the high privilege of marrying a well-bred daughter. And it’s returnable in the event of a sudden marriage dissolution.

🩷💛🧡💚❤️WEIRD DISCOVERIES AFTER TYING THE KNOTS

In view of all the above, when after marriage has started a wife or even the husband notices something starkly evil and sinister, they must not condone it, neither should they keep silent over it. You owe yourself, your parents, and God the responsibility to expose it! Our anchor scripture calls for the exposure of evil rather than being quiet or silent over it. Especially, if what you discovered constitutes a threat to your very life.

🩷💛🧡💚❤️DOING MARRIAGE AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR LIFE
Don’t do marriage at the expense of your life and soul! Silence at such a time is never golden. And the old premise that “you must not bring a third-party into your marriage” has proven to be wrong and deadly as it has led to the death of victims who could have survived had they spoken up!
You must always remember that you didn’t marry to be taken as a prey and cheaply killed or butchered.

🩷💛🧡💚❤️WHEN YOU NEED TO SPEAK OUT OR EVEN SCREAM!
For the sake of clarity, we shall give some instances of when you will need to speak out!

🩷(1) There was a case of a husband who was sexually molesting his biological daughter. He began raping the poor girl ever before she was ten years old.
The abused daughter spoke tearfully to her mother about what Daddy was doing to her. Who would a girl child first run to when confronted with such a monster in the person of her own father? Her mother, of course. But instead of being enraged over the heinous and abominable wickedness of her husband and protesting very loudly and angrily about it, the mother kept mute: because of her fear of her husband. Thereby allowing the evil to flourish for many years and her poor daughter bearing the trauma. This is blatantly wrong!
If your husband is sleeping with your daughter or your female relatives or your female house helps, never for any reason make excuses for him. Don’t just label it as “temptation” and keep quiet. Scream! Expose him to those who are stakeholders in your marriage. These people include your parents, his parents, the officiating minister that joined you in the wedding ceremony and the pastor of your present local church. Such evil must not be covered because you want to protect his reputation. No, no no! Expose him just as our anchor scripture commands; so that he will be called to order by those who are higher than you.

💛(2) If your husband is practicing unnatural sexual behaviour such as anal sex or tying you up with chains before having sex with you, that is not sexual intimacy in marriage. It is sadomasochistic rape. Don’t keep quiet about it. Open your mouth and tell your parents, his parents and your local church pastor about it. He is deviant and abnormal. He needs to be called to order before he destroys you.

🧡(3) If your husband habitually beats you up, whips you with “koboko” or horsewhip or flogs you mercilessly with his belt, an electric cable or a broomstick over misunderstanding, don’t be silent. Speak out!!!
Every wife beater or wife batterer is a potential murderer. If you don’t speak out NOW, he may kill you one day, and you will be hastily buried and your children will become orphans. So speak out NOW. Report him.

💚(4) If your wife is in the habit of picking up the kitchen knife, an axe, the pestle or some lethal weapon when she’s a fit of anger and threatening to hit you because you offended her, don’t assume that she’s just making empty threats. Speak out! Open your mouth and let her parents and your pastor know.

❤️(5) If you have come to realise that your husband laces your drinks with drugs that make you fall into abnormal and excessive sleep and you have woken up and found out that he thoroughly abused you sexually while you were in deep slumber, don’t keep quiet. Especially, if it has happened again and again and again. Report what’s going on to your pastor. A man in France repeatedly drugged his wife unconscious and invited dozens of men to rape her. Report before your husband grows more weird.

🩷(6) Is your husband coercing or even openly trying to force you to have sex with another man in exchange for that man’s wife(it’s called wife swapping)? Or is he telling you to sleep with some highly placed personality so as to obtain some special favours such as career promotion, a huge loan or debt cancellation? Don’t be quiet about it either, particularly if he is insisting and trying to dominate and force you to accept his satanic proposal.
If he persists and threatens harming you if you don’t obey him, open your mouth and expose him. Pick up your phone and tell your parents, his parents, your Local Church’s pastor and and any other key stakeholders who participated in your marriage’s beginnings.
💛(7) If your wife or husband is persistently and habitually refusing you sexual intimacy, don’t be silent about it. We know it may be embarrassing to open up and talk about this sensitive aspect of marriage but you must gather the courage to report to those who are in position of oversight in yours and his spiritual life. This includes your church pastor and the Church’s marriage committee. You will first tell your Church pastor. When you tell your church pastor, he will convene the marriage committee, if he thinks it necessary.

🩷💛🧡💚❤️MARRIAGE IS NOT A KILLING FIELD
Christian marriage is not a killing field. God commands us to be wise as serpents. The serpent’s first rule of wisdom is self-preservation and self protection. So, it’s your duty to see to it that you protect yourself even in your marriage.
In speaking out to protect your life from a heartless, cruel and predatory husband or wife, you’re walking in wisdom for God’s Word says:
“See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise”(Ephesians 5:15).
Please, don’t be a fool in your marriage!!!

🩷💛🧡💚❤️CONCLUSION
As already hinted somewhere above, the old premise that spouses should not allow a third-party in their matrimonial affairs is grossly faulty and patently wrong. You didn’t marry by yourselves, did you? Several persons played different roles that brought about your union. So also when there’s a crisis in your union that’s life-threatening, you must not handle it all alone. You who is the innocent party must speak out! And you need to speak out early enough!!!💚

💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with open and sincere hearts.

✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today in genuine repentance. Believe in Him and be saved!

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