IN OUR DAY, MANY WIVES COMPLAIN THAT THEIR HUSBANDS ARE UNROMANTIC and their Men in turn resist, insisting that a Man needn’t be romantic. Now, the question is who is right amongst the two? Should a husband be romantic?
Please, pay close attention!
Right from the beginning in Eden, Marriage was a romantic relationship. The first husband was a romantic gentleman. When Adam set his eyes on Eve, he didn’t coldly say, “Okay, you are the promised helper. Well, find yourself somewhere and sit down.” Rather, he was joyous and highly ecstatic and went on to speak the words of Genesis 2:23 that still resonate throughout the world. By those words he extolled, praised and eulogized his new wife. That’s being romantic!
In the Old Testament times, God took the initiative of giving romantic life a strong footing in marriages in Israel.
How did He do this? By commanding a 365 days holiday for newly married couples! Let’s read:
“When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, AND SHALL CHEER UP HIS WIFE WHICH HE HATH TAKEN.”(Deuteronomy 24:5)
In the verse above, God gave newly married couples in Israel one year holiday at the beginning of their Marriage to be together for one purpose: so that the husband would “CHEER UP THE WIFE”. The focus was THE WIFE. What kind of “CHEERING UP” must this be since the wife is neither discouraged, grieved nor downcast, being a newly married and happy woman?
Reading that scripture in a few other translations will aid our understanding:
“When a man has just married, do not send him away to fight in the army. Do not make him work at jobs in other places. HE SHOULD STAY AT HOME FOR ONE YEAR. THEN HE CAN MAKE HIS NEW WIFE VERY HAPPY.”(Deuteronomy 24: 5; EASY)
“When a man hath newly taken a wife, he shall not go out with the army, neither shall any kind of business be imposed upon him; HE SHALL BE FREE FOR HIS HOUSE ONE YEAR, AND SHALL GLADDEN HIS WIFE WHOM HE HATH TAKEN.”(Deuteronomy 24: 5; DARBY)
“A newly married man doesn’t have to march in battle. Neither should any related duties be placed on him. He is to live free of such responsibilities for one year, SO HE CAN BRING JOY TO HIS NEW WIFE.”(Deuteronomy 24: 5; CEB)
All the translations of Deuteronomy 24: 5 above are saying that the husband SHOULD STAY AT HOME for 365 days to: “cheer up his wife, gladden her heart, bring joy to her and make her very happy”! What kind of “joy, gladness, happiness and cheering up” is God talking about? He’s talking about romantic and sexual love! Every wife needs them as much as her husband. You basically don’t give these precious matrimonial treasures from afar. By her nature, a wife first needs your physical presence and loving companionship. It’s in that atmosphere that you could respectfully minister these things to her and she’ll feel honoured and will gladly receive them.
Unfortunately, most husbands weren’t taught about this before marriage. To make matters worse, many grew up in homes where the father rarely spent time with Mum. Once he returned home from work and ate his lunch, the next thing was to launch out into town to spend time with friends and any other person he may stumble into, but not his wife because he believes it’s UNMANLY to stay at home with “A WOMAN” after working hours. He’d rather go to town and while away time and return at 8:00 PM and then eat and “enjoy his madam.”
He returns home and meets a lonely and irritated wife who’s pressing her phone to beat boredom since the kids have all gone to bed. He rudely demands for his dinner. After eating and belching, he clears his throat, saunters to her and stretches an arm to touch her and she responds: “Please Dear, leave me alone. I know where you’re going but I’m not in the mood.” He clears his throat again and tells her: “O girl, get up jare. Why are you being stubborn? You have started again, baa?” She shakes her head and replies: “I’ve told you again and again, you’re not romantic. You’ve been away for most of the day. Now, that you’ve finally landed, you want to land on me. Oga, I’m not your Airport!” The man retorts: “So, I’m not romantic? You’re saying that I am not a man?” He goes into a rage and gives her a heavy slap on the right cheek to prove that he’s a man.
Dear husband, if your wife has told you that you are unromantic, she hasn’t insulted you. She has simply informed you about a deficiency in your life that you could easily correct.
What does it mean for a husband be romantic? It’s to be a gentleman and a lover to your wife. It’s seeing her as a Princess and a Queen and treating her as such. Its being in the habit of doing and saying things to show, express and demonstrate your love for her. It’s always seeing her as a young lady (please, visit YouTube, type ANSELM AHMAN and listen to my song titled: “Your Wife Is A Fine Lady”) even though she’s fully in her sixties. It’s acting profusely affectionate and treating her in sweet and romantic ways that give her feelings and assurances of being loved, cherished and highly celebrated!
When you’re romantic, you’re making your wife to want more of you as we can see in our anchor scripture for today. The woman wanted more kisses from her Spouse because his love is BETTER than wine! How? He’s not like the wife beater above who was absent for hours and returned home wanting obligatory sex. He spent time courting, cooing and wooing his wife before uniting with her and she found his love as BETTER THAN WINE!
God’s plan is that husbands should continue to be romantic even after the first one year of marriage. And that’s why He commands in the book of Proverbs:
“Let thy fountain be blessed: and REJOICE WITH THE WIFE OF THY YOUTH.
LET HER BE AS THE LOVING HIND AND PLEASANT ROE; LET HER BREASTS SATISFY THEE AT ALL TIMES; AND BE THOU RAVISHED ALWAYS WITH HER LOVE.”(Proverbs 5:18-19)
At the beginning of Marriage you’re to “CHEER HER UP” and now that she’s much older God says: REJOICE WITH HER.” “LET HER BREASTS SATISFY THEE”. Can’t you see that God wants you to be romantic towards your wife both at the beginning and throughout your marriage relationship with her?
So, your wife’s desire for you to be a romantic husband is correct. Thankfully, you can begin to be so from TODAY.
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🍷🍗 TAKE-HOME LESSON: GOD WANTS YOU TO BE A ROMANTIC LOVER TO YOUR WIFE. EMBRACE THAT CALLING WITH EXCITEMENT TODAY!
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