🌹🖼️🥇🏆God never gives a perfect spouse, but He always gives a good and growing marriage partner (Proverbs 18:22) with a great and complex inbuilt capacity that is beyond your immediate comprehension. And that’s why you must not form conclusions about your mate—especially negative ones—because you really haven’t fully known them yet.
Your “instrument” for reaching the time when you’ll enjoy the best of your mate is patience because your spouse, as already hinted, is a growing being that transforms from one dimension to another.
🌹🖼️🥇🏆A CARDINAL PREREQUISITE
In marriage, patience is not optional. It’s a virtue you must possess because it’s one of the prerequisites for functioning successfully as a married lover. Patience is one of the basic components of love (1 Corinthians 13:4).
🌹🖼️🥇🏆THE DIAMOND PERSONALITY OF YOUR SPOUSE
Your spouse is, in a sense, like a massive block of diamond under the earth. In the initial years of marriage, and perhaps for many more after, you will have to dig and keep digging. All the while, you’re encountering earth and moving dirt. During this period, a thousand voices will tell you to give up on the marriage and go out to find yourself a “better” partner. But you must be wise and discerning enough to know that it’s the devil’s voice you’re hearing.
Keep digging. Digging simply means to keep loving and being in love with your spouse. As you do, you get nearer to the hidden “diamond personality” of your mate. Yes, if you refuse to be discouraged and keep “digging,” you’ll finally discover the stunning diamond personality of your partner. And your lives and marriage will be transformed.
🌹🖼️🥇🏆IMPATIENCE: PATHWAY TO ENDLESS REGRETS
Unfortunately, many marriages have collapsed because one of the spouses was not willing to exercise patience. They hastily concluded that the weaknesses, failures, and other negative outward traits in their partner’s life were permanent, and that they couldn’t spend the rest of their lives with such a “miserable clod.” That’s how many have thrown away the wife or husband God gave them, only to embrace a scrap. And today, they live in endless regret.
🌹🖼️🥇🏆DON’T MISTREAT YOUR SPOUSE BECAUSE OF HOW THEY ARE TODAY
You might have seen one, two, or even three promising marriages that ended in the courtroom because one partner suddenly felt the marriage was a mistake just because, according to them, it was taking “too long” for the cry of a baby to be heard in their home. But their marriage isn’t even twenty years old yet! The impatient mate waves aside the fact that couples like Abraham and Sarah, and Zechariah and Elizabeth, waited for well over 25 years before having the fruit of the womb. Instead, they insisted on getting a divorce against all sober advice and counsel, finally “discarding” their “unfruitful” wife. But not quite a year later, the woman they called barren found new love, remarried, and began bearing children abundantly! (Psalm 113:9)
You might already know the story of J.K. Rowling, one of the most successful authors in history. She conceived the idea for her book Harry Potter in 1990 and got married in Portugal in 1992 to a husband who didn’t value her but abused her domestically. All the while, she had the Harry Potter story incubating in her mind, and her husband had no idea he was living with a woman who would transform into a billionaire and a global figure in a few years’ time. Well, they separated in 1993 and officially divorced in 1995. Just two years later, precisely in 1997, Harry Potter was published and became a global phenomenon. Six other Harry Potter books followed. J.K. Rowling became iconic, her books selling over 600 million copies globally and being translated into no less than 82 languages! Today, she is on the world’s Who’s Who list, and she is remarried to a husband who enjoys the wealth and limelight with her. But what of her first husband, who abused her domestically after just one year of marriage and could only see a vulnerable, obscure woman, but not the golden pen in her hand? Definitely, he has regretted carelessly throwing away a future billionaire because he was short-sighted.
🌹🖼️🥇🏆HOLD YOUR SPOUSE CLOSE TO YOUR HEART
Nobody is trash. Everyone created in the image and likeness of God carries a glorious destiny. And that includes your spouse. Don’t let their present weaknesses, inabilities, incompetencies, or a temporary lack of cash or character make you conclude that they’re no good. If you can only be patient, you’ll be stunned at what your partner will become.
🌹🖼️🥇🏆CONCLUSION
Finally, hear this: Love thinks long-term, and that’s why it is patient, hopeful, forbearing, and believes the best of the object of its affection (1 Corinthians 13:7). Since you have chosen marriage and not celibacy, you have chosen to love. Therefore, pour all your heart into loving your mate. Put away impatience, haste, and childishness. Adorn yourself with maturity, wisdom, and sagacity. Think long-term about your spouse. Wish them well and bend over backwards, when necessary, to help them become who God wants them to be. In the end, the two of you will be the better for it, as you’ll enjoy a far more glorious marriage than what you had in the beginning.🏆
💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with an open and sincere heart.
📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“Never look back at the things you have “buried.” Never give the devil your attention or listening ear. Snub him! Resist him, and he will flee from you.Walk hand in hand to the devil’s chagrin!”(Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds Devotional, May 20, 2026)
✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today and be saved!
🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
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