🩷💛♥️It was 10:45 PM already.
Everywhere was completely quiet in their neighbourhood, and their children had long gone to bed.
Mrs. Hudson, already in her beautiful ankle-length silken nightgown, left the master bedroom to meet her husband, for whom she had been waiting. She felt he should already be with her in bed.
Even though he heard her footsteps as she approached, Mr. Hudson didn’t even lift up his head. He was typing away on his computer.
When his delectable wife laid her hands affectionately on his shoulders and sweetly whispered, “Well done, my Lord!” he hissed and raised his head slowly. “I know what you are here for. Is it not to ask me to leave this all-important work and come and sleep with you? I’ve asked you again and again, is sex food? Is it food that one must eat every day? We had it just two weeks ago and you’re here again. Can’t you for once exercise temperance and self-control? Please, will you take your hands off me and get out of my office and let me concentrate on my work?”
Without a word, his beautiful wife walked quietly out of his office. It wasn’t new. It was what she had endured for years.
🩷💛♥️WORLDS APART
Even though they were married, they were worlds apart in the affairs of the marriage bedroom and their love life in general.
While she was an avid reader of marriage books and an enthusiast of marriage seminars, he was a soccer buff and a writer of heaps of unpublished manuscripts that were piled up on his shelf.
Mr. Hudson was a literal depiction of Psalm 49:20, which says: “Man that is in honour, and understandeth not, is like the beasts that perish.”
He was in the high estate called marriage but lacked understanding and so behaved like a beast, reproaching his beautiful wife over her love for the pleasures of marriage—as if it was wrong for her to cherish the sexual gifts of God.
Let’s consider what this misguided husband said to his dear wife, who gave him the rare patriarchal honour that Sarah gave Abraham, and yet he (Mr. Hudson) did not know her worth:
🩷💛♥️(1) “IS SEX FOOD? IS IT FOOD THAT ONE MUST EAT EVERY DAY?”
The truth is: sex is much more than food. God’s Word calls it water (Proverbs 5:15). We all know that we generally eat food three times daily. But water? We don’t drink water only three times a day. We drink it several times in one day. What water is to the physical human body is what sexual intimacy is to the life of a couple as one flesh. So sex is even more important than food, and where possible, spouses are free to have it several times in a day, just as they did during their honeymoon.
🩷💛♥️(2) “WE HAD IT JUST TWO WEEKS AGO AND YOU’RE HERE AGAIN.”
Mr. Hudson’s ignorance of the marriage institution is simply appalling. For a man who has been through school and has a collection of college degrees, it is a disgrace. He had sexual intimacy with his wife a fortnight ago and he is surprised that she is desirous of a new encounter!
Dear Reader, God hasn’t given any husband or wife the right to dictate when their mate should express their desire to make love. Instead, His Word commands spouses to faithfully give sexual fulfilment to their mate as soon as they demand it. Please read 1 Corinthians 7:3-5; Proverbs 3:28; and Proverbs 3:27. God does not want you to be a sexual defaulter. If your spouse is asking for their sexual rights and you are refusing them even though you are healthy and not on a mutually agreed fast, you are transgressing. If you truly know who the Lord is, you will not jeopardise your life by doing so.
🩷💛♥️(3) “CAN’T YOU FOR ONCE EXERCISE TEMPERANCE AND SELF-CONTROL?”
Temperance and self-control are important spiritual virtues, but they have no place in the bedroom life of a couple except when one of them is severely incapacitated physically and the healthy one has to exercise temperance and self-control.
Under normal circumstances, as in the case of Mrs. Hudson and her husband, there is no call for the husband to talk about temperance and self-control. He was simply being lazy, wicked, and cruel to his long-suffering wife.
🩷💛♥️(4) “PLEASE, WILL YOU TAKE YOUR HANDS OFF ME AND GET OUT OF MY OFFICE AND LET ME CONCENTRATE ON MY WORK?”
What an ill-mannered, uncivilised, rude, and uncouth fellow! There was once a man like him. His name was Nabal (1 Samuel 25). Just as Mr. Hudson was academically rich, so Nabal was financially rich. He was uncouth like Mr. Hudson. Nabal’s wife, Abigail, must have suffered in his hands because of his crudeness.
What eventually became of him? God took him out; God killed him.
🩷💛♥️CONCLUSION
Spouses, please be very careful how you treat your mate in the bedroom. If you are breaking your mate’s heart sexually, God feels their pain (Matthew 25:40).
If you are an oppressor, deceiver, cheat, or defrauder in sexual matters, be warned! God kills bedroom transgressors and fraudsters (1 Corinthians 7:5). He killed Er and Onan, the great-grandsons of His friend Abraham, for sexual transgressions (Genesis 38:7-10). Don’t let Him “take you out” too.
💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with an open and sincere heart.
📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“Today, much of God’s work is languishing and in need of resources yet we have well blessed and financially comfortable married couples who just can’t see beyond giving offerings and paying tithes in their local churches. These things ought not to be so. God is calling you and your spouse to use your material wealth to expand His Kingdom on earth.”(Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds’ Devotional, May 27, 2024)
✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today and be saved!
🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
“Science shows that unforgiveness in marriage is a primary driver of eroded intimacy, chronic emotional distress, and physical health deterioration.”
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