🪘🎞️🏆🤎In every facet of life, there’s room for growth. Why? Because God designed life such that the capacity for growth is inherent in virtually everything. Your marriage is no exception.
🪘🎞️🏆🤎IGNORANCE ABOUT “SPOUSAL GROWTH”
As we’ve taught in the past, your love life is similar to your spiritual life in Christ. Just as you need to grow in your relationship with Jesus, so also do you need to grow in your spousehood.
Unfortunately, most couples don’t even know that they can grow in their love relationship. Consequently, they don’t take the necessary steps to trigger this growth.
🪘🎞️🏆🤎MARRIAGE’S LOVE LEVELS
As soon as you were both declared husband and wife by the officiating minister of your wedding ceremony, you instantly got a new name and moved up to the first level: Just Married. You are on this level as you enter the car that wheels you to your honeymoon hotel suite or to your house.
🪘🎞️🏆🤎HONEYMOONERS
Upon arrival at your house or honeymoon hotel, and after changing from your ceremonial wedding attire into your new and beautiful casual clothes, you reach the next level: you’ve become “Honeymooners” or the “newly married couple.” You’ve graduated so soon? Yes, you’ve graduated from “Just Married” and become “Honeymooners.”
Some stay on the “Honeymooners” level for a week. Some for a month. Others for three months or a bit longer. They exhibit romantic affection, delicacy, and the demeanor of someone who knows that they’re still in the “love chambers” and should conduct themselves with utmost decorum in everything and at all times.
Sadly, many don’t last on this level. Even though they’re still in the hotel suite with all its beauty and comfort, their vagabond and brutish self is too eager to show its dirty face. They soon pull off their “honeymoon vest,” put on their real, animalistic self, and argue, shout, and fight shamelessly over trivia right in the hotel or guesthouse. Or haven’t you heard of those who began exhibiting their animalistic side right at the wedding reception when they were still “Just Married”?
Well, after the honeymoon, most couples who moved up to the “honeymoon suite” return straight to an ordinary, nominal life. They live as co-tenants, share things as roommates, breed children simply because they had sex, and coexist in a thrill-less and unromantic space.
🪘🎞️🏆🤎SWEETHEARTS AND LOVERS
This is the first class in the tertiary level of matrimonial growth. However, it has few “students.” Why? Because most are not keen on seeing their marriage grow, let alone seeing themselves transformed into Sweethearts. Instead, they believe in infidelity, extramarital affairs, and cheating. To them, they didn’t marry to be “tied down” to one man or woman for life. No, no, no!
Thankfully, there are those who press into this class( the Sweethearts and Lovers’ level). They are spouses who are not only married but ardently believe in marriage and every aspect of it. They love each other and practically live it out. They know what God’s Word says about marriage—that it’s deep, wide, high, and so enriching it takes a lifetime to enjoy it all. And they are desirous and determined to enjoy every single drop of it!
🪘🎞️🏆🤎IMPASSIONED MARRIED LOVERS!
This is the second class in the tertiary level of marriage. Those who pressed on in their spousal growth at the level of Sweethearts and Lovers successfully graduate to this beautiful class.
Impassioned married lovers believe deeply in marriage, but that’s just a part of why they’ve grown in love. They’ve grown in love because they take marriage more than just seriously. And why not?
They believe that what God made the first institution on earth—and established long before governments, organized religion, and businesses ever came into existence—is too all-important to be trivialized. They are, therefore, marriage enthusiasts and devotees who hunger to reach the apogee of the matrimonial life and experience.
Consequently, impassioned married couples diligently endeavor to maintain intense emotion, deep romantic yearning, and physical chemistry in their marriage. They consciously and actively cultivate “passionate love,” which is characterized by strong longing, intimate connection, and physical attraction. And they do these things daily, just as the believer in Christ grows their spiritual life by feeding on the Word and walking with the Lord daily.
🪘🎞️🏆🤎JEALOUSLY GUARDING THEIR ROMANTIC ELEMENTS
The impassioned married lover is like a boxer, a wrestler, or a gold-medalist athlete. These sportsmen don’t play with their physical form and fitness. They work on their bodies and sporting skills daily.
Similarly, impassioned married lovers guard their elements, skills, and tone as lovers. They strive to always be in possession of the unique essences of love and romance they are imbued with. They strive to consistently satisfy their mate, aiming to bring the highest level of care and dedication to their marriage.
🪘🎞️🏆🤎CONCLUSION
Where are you in your spousehood? Are you growing? Are you in the primary level of matrimonial growth, or have you moved up into the tertiary stage?
If you haven’t been growing, it’s not too late to begin. There is so much for you and your spouse within your marriage.
Today, take each other by the hand and purpose to keep loving and to keep growing. You’ll be surprised at how far God will bring you in your mutual love lives and matrimony.🪘
💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Re-read this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with open and sincere hearts.
📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“When you join yourself to a sex toy, you have joined yourself to the spirit behind its creation, and that spirit is demonic lust. You may find yourself filled with an insatiable lust that makes you crave a kind of sexual thrill that is unnatural and that no human husband or wife can satisfy.”(Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds’ Devotional, June 9, 2026)
✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today and be saved!
🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
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