🤎🍂🎞️My secondary school was a mission boarding college with very strict rules on “outing.” On no account must a student be found in the town without an officially signed Exeat Card that had gone through all due process. The only exception was on the general outing days.

🤎🍂🎞️TEENAGE STUDENTS IN THE RED LIGHT DISTRICT!
Yet, as strict as the school rules were, some students still sneaked out during Night Prep hours to patronise prostitutes in the heart of the town. In the vernacular, they called it “E nya du Uta,” meaning “Going to carry a woman’s thigh!”
As a Form One student, I never knew such a thing existed until my classmate, whom I will here refer to as “Bobby Dublin,” came along one Monday morning to tell me how he had accompanied some seniors to visit harlots the previous night!
The truth is, it wasn’t just our school. Many students in other schools were secret customers of harlots. Thankfully, my strict religious upbringing insulated me from taking any interest in that foul and destructive vice.

🤎🍂🎞️MANY HUSBANDS WERE ONCE PROSTITUTES’ CUSTOMERS
Very many of those who are husbands today had their first and subsequent sexual encounters, spanning several years, in brothels where the harlots and the pimps who managed them allotted a time frame of five minutes to each customer. A “round” was expected to be started and concluded within five minutes so that the prostitute could service other men.

🤎🍂🎞️THE FIVE-MINUTE TIME FRAME MENTALITY
Men who went through the brothels before becoming husbands enter marriage with the “five-minute time frame” mentality. All they want is to satisfy themselves. Just as they thought nothing about the harlot’s satisfaction, they also think little or nothing about their wife’s satisfaction. This is one of the reasons why some wives complain that their husband is “a one-minute man.” Thankfully, the wrong orientation acquired from years of sleeping with prostitutes can be successfully corrected by the Word of God and the power of the Holy Spirit.

🤎🍂🎞️THE GOD-ORDAINED SEXUAL INTIMACY
Sexual intimacy is meant to be a fellowship, not a “urination.” It is a sweet time of vocal, mental, emotional, and bodily “conversation” that is not hurried, rushed, or carried out in haste.
Even more importantly, God wants husbands to enter the time of sexual intimacy with one thing uppermost in their minds: the quest to satisfy their wife until she is fully satiated. That is why the Bible says: “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”(1 Corinthians 7:3). So, the wife should also have the same mindset of satisfying her husband.

🤎🍂🎞️GIVE HIGH QUALITY AND GOOD QUANTITY
Sexual intimacy should be focused on rendering — offering, giving, and ministering sexual satisfaction to one another. It is not a place to selfishly grab things for yourself while forgetting your mate. No!
It is important to note that the phrase “due benevolence” used to refer to sex in 1 Corinthians 7:3 simply means the quality and quantity of sex that satisfies your marriage partner.

🤎🍂🎞️THE UNIQUE BODY OF YOUR QUEENLY WIFE
Whereas a husband easily gets aroused and ready for intimacy by the mere sight of the nakedness of his wife, his madam takes a bit longer to be ready. It becomes the duty of the husband to drop the “five-minute time frame” approach to sexual intimacy which he learnt from the harlots and instead walk in love — thereby spending as much time as his wife’s body needs to go through its various phases of erotic excitement until she finally experiences orgasm or multiple orgasms.
This means that a husband who began his sexual life with prostitutes must humbly unlearn all he was taught by commercial sex workers and learn the ABCDs of the art of lovemaking anew in order to satisfy his Queen. The best Teacher is the Holy Spirit, and the Holy Spirit’s manual of instructions is the Bible.

🤎🍂🎞️CONCLUSION
Contrary to popular opinion, sexual immorality is never a means of gaining sexual expertise.
Instead, sexual immorality has been the ruiner of the sexual lives of millions who are in regret today. The place to learn sexual knowledge is in marriage, under the tutelage of the blessed Holy Spirit. And He uses means such as the devotional you are reading right now to give His simple yet highly impactful and life-transforming lectures.

💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it.

📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“If we want our love to look “two years old” after three decades, we must master the art of long-term tender loving care.​ Treat, touch, speak to, and handle your mate with utmost reverence, respect and tenderness”(Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds’ Devotional, April 17, 2026)

✝️ Altar Call:
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🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
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