🩷🧡🤎When I was still a bachelor, I visited the home of a Christian couple. During my stay, I observed that the husband was authoritarian and treated his wife like an underling. What I observed in that home inspired a new song in me with these opening lines: “Love your wife, Mister; don’t treat her like a maid anymore. She’s your wife, Buddy; don’t treat her like a nanny.”

🩷🧡🤎LIKE THE UNION OF CHRIST AND THE CHURCH
Sir/Ma, the union between husband and wife is perfectly comparable to the relationship between Jesus Christ and the Church. As Jesus Christ is the Head of the Church and the Church is His Body, so also is the husband the head of the wife, and the wife his body. God did not use the analogy of the Head and the Body carelessly. He did so because it vividly shows what husband and wife truly are in marriage. Husband and wife ought to relate in the same way the head and the body relate in our lives.

🩷🧡🤎INTERDEPENDENCE OF THE HEAD AND THE BODY
In our physical bodies, it is absolutely true that the head leads the body. The head houses the brain, the eyes, the mouth, the ears, the teeth, the tongue, and much more. We know the importance of the head. But we also know that the body houses vital organs such as the heart, lungs, reproductive system, digestive system, and so much more.
The truth is this: the head depends on the body, and the body depends on the head. Neither can do without the other. Therefore, neither is dictatorial, tyrannical, pompous, boastful, authoritarian, domineering, or haughty toward the other. Instead, they operate in mutual respect and harmony. They respond to the vital information and commands from each other. Why? Because they know that they are interdependent. And that is how it should be in marriage.

🩷🧡🤎A CONSISTENT ATTITUDE OF HUMILITY
When you consider your body, you will easily observe that your head never displays an attitude or air of arrogance toward the body. Nothing ever makes it think or behave that way.

🩷🧡🤎SOMETIMES THE BODY LEADS
Even though your head is the leader of your entire body, there are times when your body comes up with a signal that immediately suspends or delays an earlier decision of the head. How? Here is an example:
You have dressed up to go to a wedding, and just as you leave the dressing table and head toward the door, you hear your stomach make a familiar sound — the kind that signals the need to quickly visit the loo. You instantly stop, turn around, walk briskly to your bedroom, and remove your special dress and gorgeous shoes.
When you get into the loo, you discover that even after ten minutes, your body is still not done. Even though your head wants to be at the wedding, your body tells it, “Hold on! Don’t move an inch! Do you want to get to the wedding venue and become embarrassed? Stay here until you are okay.” Your head, with all its intelligence, does not argue with the body. It promptly complies. It submits to the wise decision of the body. It knows that such submission does not make it any less the leader that it is. This is how it should be in marriage.
Even though the husband is the leader of the wife, there are times when she will come up with ideas and proposals that are better than the decisions the husband has already declared. What should the husband do? He should humbly drop his ideas and accept what his wife has brought to the table. That is exactly why God placed her in his life in the first place: to help him when he is missing it. Unfortunately, some husbands do not understand these truths. To them, every decision must necessarily come from them because they are “the chief executive” of the family. But it should not be so.

🩷🧡🤎THERE IS A “PROPHETESS” IN YOUR WIFE
Many years ago, I heard the story of two young secondary school students who were to travel home for the holidays. They had always travelled by air because their father had the money.
However, their father somehow forgot to send them their flight tickets until their closing date was only a day away. The boys called him, and he told them to approach the airline company and ask to be allowed to board, assuring them that he would pay upon their arrival at the airport.
His wife said, “Must these boys come home by air? Please, let them travel by road this once.” He quickly overruled her suggestion without giving it thoughtful consideration. The wife pressed her point, but he refused and insisted that his sons must travel by air. Eventually, the wife submitted.
The boys spoke with the airline company and were allowed to board. The flight was safe until the aircraft approached its destination airport, where it suddenly developed a fault and crash-landed in flames. The father of those dear boys was right there at the airport and watched helplessly as the tragedy unfolded. His two sons perished before his eyes.
When your wife speaks on serious issues, please listen. Soberly and prayerfully think things through. Many times, she may be right.

🩷🧡🤎MARRIAGE IS NOT THE ARMY
Marriage is not the army, where subordinates must not question the commands of their superior officers. In fact, there is no place for the terms “superior” and “subordinate” in marriage. Husband and wife are one flesh, meaning one person. Neither is superior nor subordinate. They are equal. However, one is the leader of the union, and that is the husband.
God commands the wife to give her husband submission, just as the Church submits to Christ completely and consistently. But when the wife comes up with a better idea, the husband must be mature enough to recognise her brilliant suggestion and accept it. That is what it means to submit to one another in the fear of God:
“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” (Ephesians 5:21)

💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with an open and sincere heart.

📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“If Oral Roberts and his wife, with all their crusades and the demands of Oral Roberts University, ensured that they had a robust sex life, what are you waiting for?”(Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds’ Devotional, May 8, 2026)

✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today and be saved!

🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
“Science suggests that spouses kissing each other daily is more than just an affectionate gesture; it acts as a biological and emotional booster that significantly improves both physical health and relationship longevity.”

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