๐๐๐Marriage has brought you right into the life of your spouse. One of the privileges you enjoy as a result is full access to their affairs and knowledge of things that are far beyond the view of others, including their parents and siblings. This includes knowledge of their secret strengths and weaknesses.
In marriage, you’re in your mate’s life not as a spectator but, among other things, as an active counsellor and adviser that should correct them when necessary. You must, however, learn to present your corrections and rebukes with wisdom, gentleness and discretion or else you end up creating new problems, some of which you may never be able to solve.
๐๐๐HUMAN NATURE DISLIKES CORRECTION
Basically, you need to know that human beings by nature don’t like corrections and rebukes. You must therefore use the wisdom of the manufacturers of drugs and electrical wares(wire, sockets, etc.)
Drug makers encapsulate drugs that are bitter in taste and harsh in smell. They also sweeten children’s drugs with honey to make infants, babies and children accept to swallow them. This way, their products are used without patients encountering the unpleasant tastes and smells of the drugs’ chemical components.
Manufacturers of Electrical products also seal wires, sockets and several other products with plastic or rubber coverings. Why? Because naked wires are dangerous. They electrocute, they kill!
๐๐๐THE DANGER OF NAKED WORDS
Similarly, naked words can kill your relationship with your spouse and bring it to utter ruins. A classic example of this is Michal. Read her naked words to King David:
“Then David returned to bless his household. And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, How glorious was the king of Israel to day, who uncovered himself to day in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself!”(2 Samuel 6:20)
Who was Michal? She was a Princess. She was David’s first wife in life. Circumstances separated them but when David finally ascended the throne, he had her brought back to him. Definitely, she occupied a good place in his heart.
But on a day of joy in Israel, she came out speaking the raw, rough and ragged word quoted above. To make matters worse, she uttered them recklessly to King David outdoors and right in the presence of the royal entourage that followed him home at the end of a great celebration.
๐๐๐FIRST COOK YOUR WORDS AND SEASON THEM
As a result of of those rough words, she fell out of King David’s affection instantly and permanently. Her uncouth utterances cut her off from David’s love and desire.
Our anchor scripture tells us to see to it that our words are mixed with Grace and that they’re seasoned to taste sweet to the hearer.
We never eat raw rice, raw beans, raw yams, raw cassava. Do we? We don’t. We first cook them. We don’t only cook them, we add several ingredients to give them taste. The same should obtain with your words. Don’t speak raw words. Don’t be in a rush to say what’s on your mind. Take time to first cook your words and season them with “salt” to give them taste. And then you may speak.
Don’t claim that you are the bold type and that you can’t pretend but speak the truth. There’s a world of difference between boldness and brashness. What Michal demonstrated wasn’t boldness. It was uncouthed utterances and brashness and you can see how it backfired at her.
David didn’t divorce her, but she lost her relevance in his life. Similarly, carelessness with your tongue way not make your spouse divorce you but you may become a mere figurehead in their lives whose presence means so little and in some cases nothing. You certainly, don’t want that kind of marriage, do you?
So, watch your tongue! Mind your words!
๐โค๏ธ Tonightโs Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with an open and sincere heart.
๐๐โ๏ธ Quotes For Reflection:
“When as a couple you choose to rejoice even in the midst of harsh circumstances, you arenโt just opting to feel good; you are activating a spiritual force that protects, strengthens and greatly deepens your romance.”(Anselm Ahman. From Lovebirds’ Devotional of April 9, 2026)
โ๏ธ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today and be saved!
๐ก๏ธโ๏ธ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
“Research suggests that a simple, consistent, six-second kiss can reset the nervous system, lower stress hormones, and increase bonding chemicals.”
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