🩵💿🫧In Marriage, Love is the First Thing. Not Lovemaking.
As important and critical as lovemaking is to the cohesion, tone, taste, and strength of your union as a one-flesh entity, demonstrating practical acts of non-erotic love towards each other is what creates a glorious background and an atmosphere of conviviality. This enables a happy and joyful coexistence as a couple.
🩵💿🫧LOVE MUST BE YOUR BREATH IN MARRIAGE
Always bear in mind that love and lovemaking are two distinctly different things.
Wayward men can walk up to prostitutes they have never met in their entire lives, make payment, and proceed to lovemaking with them without an atom of love or respect. But marriage is a completely different world.
In marriage, love must be your breath, your character, and your lifestyle. Why? Because marriage makes you and your spouse one another’s closest neighbours on earth. Even more profoundly, marriage has made you one person in two bodies! And what does God’s Word tell you concerning your neighbour? It says:
“Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” (Matthew 22:39b)
And since you and your spouse are “no more twain but one flesh” (Matthew 19:6), loving your mate as you love yourself becomes even more imperative and compulsory.
🩵💿🫧IN SELF-LOVE THERE ARE NO GENDER ROLES
In demonstrating love towards yourself, thoughts of gender roles never cross your mind. Neither does the thought of age. For example, if as a husband you happen to be home alone and suddenly find yourself very hungry, with no snacks available, what do you do? You rise to your feet, irrespective of your age or gender, and head to the kitchen. At that point, when hunger is dealing you harsh blows in the tummy, you don’t say, “Cooking is a woman’s job. I can’t cook. I’ll wait for her to return from work.” Such a statement would be a demonstration of laziness. You know very well that it is not written anywhere in stone that only a woman must cook for food to be delicious. And so you prepare as much meal as the family can eat, doing your best to ensure it is tasty. You serve yourself and leave the rest for your wife and children.
This is a demonstration of loving yourself: you set aside your age, gender, and position in the family, entered the kitchen, and cooked for yourself—and by extension, for everyone. Nothing negative happened to you for humbling yourself to do this. This shouldn’t be something you do only when you are home alone. You can also do it when your wife returns home exhausted from the day’s work. This is love. Love is sacrificially meeting the needs of the person you cherish, often at your own expense.
🩵💿🫧WALKING IN LOVE
When you walk in practical love with your spouse, it sets a sweet atmosphere of friendship and cordiality in which giving and receiving affection, passion, and sexual love become easy and natural.
🩵💿🫧LOVE HELPS YOU MAKE SACRIFICES
Love is what made the Good Samaritan stop his journey and approach the wounded and dying man. It wasn’t because it was convenient.
Love is what made him pour oil and wine on the dying man’s wounds and bind them. It wasn’t because he was a doctor, a nurse, or a paramedic.
So love is all about compassion, empathy, humaneness, and seeking to relieve the burden of another.
All this means that you are in marriage to demonstrate compassion, mercy, humaneness, and kindness to your mate whenever necessary.
🩵💿🫧BE HUMANE
Is your wife or husband obviously worn out and unable to make love tonight? Demonstrate empathy and consideration. Allow them to rest tonight and even the next day, even though they are not sick. Set aside your burning libido and focus on their well-being. Run errands for them where and when necessary. Be all over them with sincere love and concern. Give them space to truly regain their strength, so the two of you can “travel” together to “outer space” again.
Is your wife doing laundry? You can assist her, thereby making the task lighter and faster.
🩵💿🫧CONCLUSION
In conclusion, let us consider the man who was beaten by robbers on his way from Jerusalem to Jericho and left for dead (Luke 10:30-37).
The Good Samaritan met him gasping for breath and dying. He poured oil and wine on his wounds, set him on his horse, took him to a comfortable inn, spent the night caring for him, and the next day left some money with the innkeeper for his welfare.
By the time the wounded man had fully recovered and returned to his business, is there anything within his means that he would not do for the Good Samaritan? Nothing! Why? Because his heart would overflow with endless gratitude to the man who saved his life. What does this teach us? Loving your spouse grows favour, gratitude, and appreciation in their heart for you. It makes them willing to go to any length to meet your needs whenever necessary.
So, make helping each other, assisting one another, and sacrificing for each other’s happiness your daily preoccupation in marriage, and your union will always be strong, romantic, and happy! 🫧
💕❤️ Tonight’s Bedroom Assignment:
Reread this devotional together just before bedtime and discuss it with an open and sincere heart.
📚📖✒️ Quotes For Reflection:
“The truth is, no person of the opposite gender other than your spouse is worth your romantic attention for one second!!!” (Anselm Ahman. Lovebirds’ Devotional, May 13, 2026)
✝️ Altar Call:
Jesus Christ is calling you! Come to Him today and be saved!
🌡️⚗️ Scientific Info To Boost Your Marriage:
“Science views daily kissing among married couples as a powerful “micro-habit” that supports long-term physical health and emotional stability. This simple act triggers profound chemical changes in the brain and strengthens the relationship over time.”
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